Moving back in with the parents

Long story short....

Im 23 now and have lived in an apartment with other roommates, friends, etc since I was 19.

Well I landed a steady fulltime job about 2 years ago and moved downtown, basically living the life, gambling, partying, being irresponsible, etc. 

Ended up losing that job 2 months ago and my lease ended downtown last month so was forced to move back into my parents house while im in this transition and looking for jobs.

Anyway....wanted to get your guys perspective and insight on how to cope with this. Ive been here a month now and am on a completely different schedule then my parents and younger siblings (who still havee to get up early for school). I find it hard to get up anytime before 11am, and all I hear is complaining from the parents that I need to live like a normal person. Ive been working for my dad, as he owns his own company but things just havent been going well and I feel like im a 15 year old boy now. I did quit drinking, and gambling for the most part and haven't hung around friends/bad influences in over a month so I do feel like im making progress, but most of that goes unnoticed. They just look at my sleep schedule and complain. 

The tension has been building up between my dad and I for a couple weeks and finally tonight the bubble finally burst. I hear screaming that I need to stop living like an Alien, start getting to sleep on time and get out of the rutt im in. Took everything in my will to refrain from jumping up and going off on him but I thought of the consequences and being homeless, etc. 

Anyway, have any of you guys ever experienced moving back in and whats the best way to stay on the good side and the fastest ways to get the hell out of here. I have applied places for several months and had a few interviews but nothing has come to fruition. All I know is I can't keep living like this, need my freedom. What would you guys do?

 Honestly? Get a job & get back out on your own.......no other way to put it. I did the same thing about 30 years ago.....& my folks just hammered on me...........which was the right thing for them to do in retrospect. They allowed me very little slack for fukkin off & partyin. They were sympathetic to my plight but not when it came to relaxing & partying. Gave me a place to stay but made it clear it was temporary

my condolensces

you moved back in, so you gotta live by their rules.  don't like it, then move out.  pretty simple, really.

I feel ya RM....Google Salty Jones unable to escape home and construction experience.
I went back in my thirties man after some bad decisions and legal issues landed me back for almost 3 months! Lol
Ya just gotta roll with it man and just know they wont understand or respect partying, gambling, or risk taking.......Trust me! Lol
They just want the best for you and are usually gonna have advice you don't wanna hear. But you gotta get out so just focus on a plan to make something happen. Even if its not exactly what they want you to do....Just make sure to not share all the things that will make you happy cause you will worry them to death......Just ask my mom and sisters! Hahahaha!

And things may not always work out exactly as planned. But you gotta roll with it and don't get down or give up cause sh"t always works out if you don't lose confidence in yourself man!

Where have i seen this exact story on another forum?

What do you do for your dad? What are the hours?

What kind of eduction/work experience do you have?

You're good as dead. Get out now. No box. Nothing. You're finished. 

You're good as dead. Get out now. No box. Nothing. You're finished. 

Join the military, become a man. You'll have benefits afterwards to further your education, find a good job, family etc.

It was the toughest thing that I had to do at 18 years old, but in retrospect it was the greatest.

In 2007 my niece joined the military, she was 41 years old. ( The cut off was 42 at that time, now I believe the maximum age is 38 ).

She spent 5 years in and traveled the world, she is out now and has a great job with the government. And she is still going to school part time.

So do not waste your life, and give something back for your freedom.

You have my heart felt sympathy for the extreme hardship you are enduring right now...

Is it the: warm, dry place to sleep or the stocked refrig that is causing you the most grief?

LOL you have the same thread at sbr....too funny

Save $ and get the fukkkkk out  U R 23 

"I find it hard to get up anytime before 11am, and all I hear is complaining from the parents that I need to live like a normal person."

Welcome to the real world -- you are not living like a normal person, your parents are right. It's time to start growing up my friend, you are 23 now. Go to bed earlier and wake up earlier. The rest of the world doesn't sleep until 11am or stay up till 4am. The rest of the world has jobs they have to get up for. Your parents are doing you a favor by taking you back into their house in your time of need. Once you're under their roof, you should show them respect and respect their wishes and rules. If they want you to go to bed earlier and wake up earlier? Then maybe you should do it. Maybe your parents know what they are talking about.

Are they charging you rent? You SHOULD be contributing to the household, and those chores sound like great ways to do it. Oh, and if you don't like doing them on Saturday or Sunday, what about doing it all during the week so you can have your SAT and SUN free?

you wouldn't be living in my house

good luck to you just the same

You live with your parents and you live by their rules when you are that age.  

You HAD a full time job for two years. HAD. Past tense. Now your old man is helping you out by giving you the opportunity to work with him while you get back on your feet. This is something you should be extremely grateful about Flip. There's nothing forcing you to be away before 11am except for the fact that your parents find it disrespectful apparently. That's one of the trade-offs of being at home. If you want the freedom to do what you want without anyone nagging, then you need to be financially independent. End of story my friend.
 
 

... IMO, this shows a tremendous lack of discipline. You want to improve yourself while you are given this opportunity to get back on your feet. One of the best ways is discipline. Very few people want to go to bed early and get up early. But guess what? Once you do it, you will actually get used to it and -- shock of all shocks -- it actually feels great to get up early in the morning and feel good. The only way you do that is to get enough sleep. I second the advice on the other forum about working out too. That will help with the sleep.

I think Hutch is right on point here -- your parents probably don't think you are that serious or ambitious about getting back on your feet if you don't show some initiative, and sleeping till 11am is the opposition of ambition and initiative.

I did quit drinking, and gambling for the most part and haven't hung around friends/bad influences in over a month so I do feel like im making progress.