alcholism

Hey everyone who gives a sh*t.   You are or have known someone who drinks too much.  I am not sure there is not a cure and I don't won't this to be funny.  How in the hell do you ever get sober?  i have tried and failed multiple times.  My father barely drinks and doesn't even understand my mother's side of the gene pool.  AKA (bare my soul lol) but seriously.  AA sucks and my bros will never stop so it looks like 3 sheets to the fu*kin wind until the end.

see it is actually alcoholism..............

My Uncle was a functioning alcoholic. Would Goto work then polish off a bottle of kettle that night . Was abusive when drunk just verbally to his wife and kids. She recently left him after putting up with it for 15 years. He had a breakdown and threatened suicide then his friends brought him to an outpatient place and he bounced after few hrs of paperwork. Seeing his kids crying about his sujcide attempt and all his friends / family he apparent went cold turkey and started doing aa every day and changed a lot of his life style. Over 75 days sober supposedly. Hard to believe he turned on a dime like this without inpatient help. The withdrawal is so bad it can kill you in some cases.

Goto a rehab/ inpatient for few weeks. Really give the one day at a time stuff a chance and just stop bein g a pu ssy and get tougher me tly . Get past the physical addiction and never look back. You can't drink socially like a normal person. Find a diff hobby

Stop being a box got it lol thanks bro.  Never had a brother just two great sisters who had to deal with all my hockey playing.  and 

a P*ussyyyy

It's Sunday morning and I just started my day with the usual Bong Hit.  I'm drinking a Screwdriver with my Sausage, Scrambled Eggs and Toast.  To each his own.

Kaz:  Where are you in CT?  I grew up in Simsbury.

You either don't really want to quit or you need to be scared straight.  I was scared straight and stopped on a dime.   2 years no drink, no smoke, no meetings. 

BWS77 God Bless you man.  i think my time will come when i ease it down but i don't know if i can ever kick it.  I have slowed way down with the betting.  i just really love sports and bantering about who will win and who won't.  Love the contests here, fantasy sports with friends, and a little drafty kings here and there.  It is genetic i suppose I mean it could be a moral weakness but i haven't found the right substitution I guess.  Goose I am from Enfield.  I battled Simsbury in hockey, soccer, and golf back in the day.  Simsbury usually had the upper hand lol.  .  Still can shoot about an 83 for 18 holes of golf not too shabby in my opinion.

KAZ:  SHAKER PARK!!! back in the day.

Well, that's it for the Screwdrivers.  Wifey has arisen and would like some Mimosas.  Easy transition.  Going to cut up some fresh Cantaloupe and Pineapple to keep her happy.  Boring day, nothing planned.  May go out for an early Sunday dinner at our favorite local restaurant. 

Sunday morning easiest the best morning of the week.

Goose you are inside my head.  I need to find a decent woman, who will bust my balls on occasion of course, and settle the f*ck down.  I get too hyped up sometimes and drinking tricks me into believing good things can't come from marriage.  I know many marriages go bad but i digress.  As for Shaker Park it was a place where dreams became nightmares lol. 1-0 loss in soccer state semi-finals, getting beat by some freshman whose dad taught him how to shoot a 72 at Simsbury Hills etc. I was damn good a hockey though or so i thought.... I feel like singing "Glory Days" but too bad they are long gone. Enjoy your Sunday Brother.  

Met Wifey when I was 32 and divorced with two kids.  She was 22.  Been married for 24 years now.  Good things can happen in marriage if you are willing to work at the relationship.  Basically you learn to pick your fights.  Most things are not worth arguing over.

 

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Just wondering Goose, why did you leave the states for Belize?I am 56 retired, and always wanted to live somewhere else. Tks.

I'm not in Belize yet.  Still in CT.  Was shooting for July but my parents bad health may delay that plan a couple months.  I'm 58 and retired.  No way I am spending another Winter up here in New England.

Belize is the only country in Central America where English is the Official Language.  Dollar exchange rate is 2-1 so you can live very well.  The idea of hiring a maid and cook appeals to Wifey.

I am also just sick and tired of all the Political in-fighting here in the USA.  You can't watch TV "News" or listen to Talk Radio, it's unbearable.  Don't need that aggravation and don't need to listen to all the Corporate Propaganda.

AA is hard to accept at first, but it's a great place to start. Every drunk thinks his story is unique & that no one can possibly understand his "plight". If you continue to go to meetings you will find out over time that you're no different than anyone else, & as bad a drunk as you think you are, there are others that are/were worse. Do it often at first........just go & listen.
 Stopping for a while is easy.........quitting altogether isn't. But you can't think 10 years down the road, hence the one-day-at-a-time. It's a scary prospect to think that you can't hang out with your friends anymore (not forever), & that it's impossible to have fun without drink. But just think back to when you were a kid..........we had lots of fun without alcohol or drugs.
 To each their own..........but if the efforts you're employing aren't working, I'd give AA another try. You don't have to get involved or start working steps........just go & listen. Maybe you'll hear the message you need to hear. Who knows? Maybe your example will lead one or more of your friends to follow.  Good luck.

No real insight here on what made me stop just my personal experience on how it happened. I think I told this story before but...

I used to drink a lot. Probably around 4-5 days a week starting after work which usually turned into late night early morning benders. 2 3 4 5 6 7 am and sometimes just stayed up and went to work with no sleep, sometimes even in the same clothes if I didn't make it back home. Black outs were frequent as was waking up at different places not knowing how I got there or who I was with. Strange girls apartments, alone in my car in random parking lots or side streets or home with no idea how I got there. Shamefully I did a lot of drunk driving during this time but never got caught or had any incidents. I guess I would always try to make it home but sometimes but would pull over and sleep it off.

I worked with hangovers for years. Boss knew what I was doing but didn't care as long as I showed up and did my job which I did, he thought it was funny and sometimes would ask about my night. This went on about 9 years 2000-2009ish.

I considered myself a functioning social alcoholic. Never drank at home and never alone, only in bars. During this time I had my daughter 2-4 days a week and never drank when she was with me. Her mom and I had a mutual understanding and never had an official custody agreement. It would have probably been 6 or 7 days a week if it wasn't for her.
 
I would pick her up with massive hangovers though. Disneyland with a hangover was way worse than working with a hangover.

Two things happened and I pretty much just stopped. One my daughter moved in with me full time. Occasionally she would stay overnight at her moms every so often but I had her about 95% of the time now. I would go right back to binge drinking on the nights when she was away. Then shortly after she moved in I got layed off from that job and lost my desire to binge drink. The first month or two I would still occasionally get hammered but I think it was out of force of habit and it didn't feel the same. Soon after I just stopped.

The job was extremely stressful and now I think that was the reason why I drank so much. Also my #1 drinking buddy worked with me and at the end of the work day just looked at each other and knew it time to go drink the problems away and girl about work. We enabled each other.

Now I will buy an occasional micro brew to go with dinner or meet somebody for at happy hour but am back home early and it is rare I go out at all. I have no desire to go back to that life style at all. Gives me the chills just thinking about drinking that much.

Side note: I did get a DUI about 6 months after leaving that job. I probably had not had a drink for at about 3-4 months prior and just had way too many shots at my cousins 40th birthday party, didn't even want to go so I consider it a fluke. My mind was still patterned that I could drive drunk and didn't feel like leaving my car over night. Got trapped going through a check point and it was game over because I could not find my wallet/license.

I honestly don't think the cop would have got me if I just handed him my license. He seemed very casual and wasn't paying much attention talking to his buddy until I said I couldn't find my license which I guess I threw my wallet on the floor. I blew .23 but felt fine, buzzed but fine. He even said he could not believe how high my BAC was because I didn't seem like I was drunk. I consider it karma for drunk driving all those years and not getting caught.

Had to do 20 AA court ordered meetings among other things and could not relate to the people or the program they were trying to force on me. I still look back and think it is weird that as soon as I stopped working at that job my desire to get drunk completely went away.

tldr: I drank a lot because of work, stopped when I lost that job.

Disclaimer: DO NOT EVER DRINK AND DRIVE. I WAS A FUKKING IDIOT EVEN THOUGH I GOT AWAY WITHOUT ANY INCIDENTS.

Goose and Kaz...you guys grew up in the nice part of the state.

very goot post atlheatholder. for almost any kind of addict it takes a rock bottom type event to make them fully realize they need to change their ways for good this time. good luck with your sobriety.

Yes, I totally agree that everyone's story isn't truly unique.  The problems with drinking is that most often we try to avoid the problems by drinking.  I will get some help.  Hitting rock bottom is a huge factor.  I appreciate the responses and people telling their stories it helps.  

We all have our triggers that make us booze.. Maybe write them down for a starter.

Gambling was/is my #1 trigger.

yeah i think my job is one of my main triggers.  I am looking for something that I find more meaning in.  As well as sh+t that happened to me as a kid.  I will spare the details.  We all have are issues.  I am going to make a solid effort to slow down.  

Ya gotta stop thinking its anyone elses fault (i.e heredity and that you were born this way). You werent. Its not a disease. Its a mental weakness.

 

You can do it brother.

After watching too many Intervention shows, and having a father and brother who are both alcoholics--seems to me addiction is a very selfish addiction.  It is about attention too.  Narcissistic behavior at its highest.  I stopped communication with both years ago, letting them know when they sobered up I would be happy to welcome them back into my life.  My life has never been better now not worrying about their worthless drunk fools.  If somebody truly wants to quit, they will.  If they don't, it is not going to happen.  That is pretty much it.  IBol.