I'm still in Shock..My brother in law walks in on a buddy of mine

Kissing another dude.Just in total shock and sick about it.Ive k own this dude about a year.Hung out with him and his ex girlfriend who was my neighbor.This guy lives with my brother in law temporary.Im on the way to a job w brother in law" He says , u aren't gonna believe this I walked in on Richard& Jessee kissing a few days ago"I said " WtF did u do? " He said " I was speechless but told them I saw it and they looked down.I just can't believe it.Im 41 and Love Lesbians, but the person thing just makes my stomach turn...The dude doesn't know I know and called today wanting to smoke a blunt.. I know the dude screws women all the time.Just can't believe it..Told my mother about it and she nearly had a heart attack.The love of my life has a sis who a lesbian, but she gets mad bc she says I foam at the mouth looking at her sis and friend.Any advice?

must be hard to be a ga.y man in alabama. I'd probably put on a front dating chicks as well. time to grow up and join the modern world. happy people arent aliens. they are all over the place and were born that way. if he was your good friend before.....does this really change anything? 

agreed with Messier. Doesn't change who he is. Took me a while to accept it years ago and at times it still erks me, but I keep it to myself. Saw a buddy of mine on holidays try and pick up another dude, almost threw up noticing it, so I left with the boys to another club and let him be. It's hard dude, but separate that aspect.

You have no right to bash him, nor gossip about him. If you can't deal with it, tell him that and leave him alone.

the down low is really something

Grow up.  He is who he is.  You think he chose to be happy so people like you (and society) would look down on him and think he was less of a person?

 No sharing blunts that's 4 sure 

Pretty difficult to put Hate in your heart close to Christmas, isn't it?

 

Doesn't this make more women available to us straights?

Go ahead and keep hating 'Bama, the rest of the World, not so much......

Merry Christmas!

Funny how people can wipe the turd off of a baby's butt, but get squeamish seeing a guy with a guy.  

In other news, my brother just got married last month. I found out about 17 year ago and I never thought I would be comfortable with it but now I am. Takes a while, but, im totally fine with it. Just try and not make him feel uncomfortable when you're around him. He is probably really hard on himself on the inside about it anyways and doesnt want it to affect his social life. 

Appropriate for him to tell you about his sexual preference the next day or two.  Not mandatory but imo there's not much of a friendship left if he can't tell you who he is.... in person. Not required of course but I personally would be pretty pissed off if my friend was unable to communicate that.

Trust and honesty is super important with dudes. happy? Bfd, tell him that you watch tranny porn all day and the friendship will last a lifetime.

It's usually not about sex. Just people who couldn't connect with members of the opposite sex and feel more comfortable with someone of their own gender. A lot of it has to do with a person's inability to live up to traditional and even modern standards of masculinity/femininity. They gravitate back to those who can empathize with them. 

I knew two kids since we were toddlers and I'm telling you a blind man could see both of them were going to be happy.  Guess how that turned out. I believe many are born that way and it's not choice.  You know even in school nobody cared or gave them a hard time.

Getty I'm sure there is a % that falls into what you are saying but many more that are born that way.  One of the kids would sleep during nap time with his butt in the air.  

Surprised at the number of mature responses in this thread.  There is hope for society after all.  

No, there's major difference in reaction between men and women in general. Obviously, it doesn't apply to every single person.

Through studies and discussion about sexuality, there are always a few men so eager to tell the groups they are heterosexual but it happens much less in women. I attribute that to traditional values and in some cases, insecurity. It kind of like we heard a man has to prove/show his manhood but you hardly ever hear that from a woman.

Gotta watch out for those brothas.

"Yeah, I got a girl but I mess around with dudes.............."

Oh jesus...........