After one trip to the driving range with her using my clubs, she decided that afternoon that she liked golf and wanted her own set. So later that day we went to Dicks Sporting Goods, and I bought her a set of Lady Hagens. The next day, which was Sunday, we went to play 18 holes, but with my nerves and patience we only ended up getting in 9 holes, and a couple of those we picked up and didn't finish. Anyone have some good advice for a brother in need?
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After one trip to the driving range with her using my clubs, she decided that afternoon that she liked golf and wanted her own set. So later that day we went to Dicks Sporting Goods, and I bought her a set of Lady Hagens. The next day, which was Sunday, we went to play 18 holes, but with my nerves and patience we only ended up getting in 9 holes, and a couple of those we picked up and didn't finish. Anyone have some good advice for a brother in need?
I play with my girlfriend about once a year....at a 9 hole course in Grand Marais, MN. And there is PLENTY of beer involved.
I would start with having her take 1 lesson. A buddy of mine (scratch golfer) always has told me, "give someone a proper grip and a proper stance and you are more then half way there to at least being able to play the game."
If she can at least get those basics down, then she will probably at least be able to hit the ball (which is the problem with my gal....she can't even make contact half the time).
One other thing: Teach her to walk up, address, and swing. Keep her moving. Nothing wrong with a bad golfer, but there is everything wrong with a bad, SLOW golfer. My gal misses the ball and she has to back away, say a few swear words, look around, ask me what she's doing wrong, and then start the whole routine over.
Lastly, scout out some executive 9-hole courses. It's easier for them....and 18 holes is a LOT for both you and her if she's struggling. I know it's not optimal, but this thing will never go anywhere if she doesn't have some fun and you can't stand hanging out with her on the course. Go with the mindset that you are just there to practice and the #1 goal is to try and get her to make a few good shots and have fun.
My mom is 70....her husband 78.....they both golf regularly. They don't hit it a mile, but I golf with them and they move along great.
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I play with my girlfriend about once a year....at a 9 hole course in Grand Marais, MN. And there is PLENTY of beer involved.
I would start with having her take 1 lesson. A buddy of mine (scratch golfer) always has told me, "give someone a proper grip and a proper stance and you are more then half way there to at least being able to play the game."
If she can at least get those basics down, then she will probably at least be able to hit the ball (which is the problem with my gal....she can't even make contact half the time).
One other thing: Teach her to walk up, address, and swing. Keep her moving. Nothing wrong with a bad golfer, but there is everything wrong with a bad, SLOW golfer. My gal misses the ball and she has to back away, say a few swear words, look around, ask me what she's doing wrong, and then start the whole routine over.
Lastly, scout out some executive 9-hole courses. It's easier for them....and 18 holes is a LOT for both you and her if she's struggling. I know it's not optimal, but this thing will never go anywhere if she doesn't have some fun and you can't stand hanging out with her on the course. Go with the mindset that you are just there to practice and the #1 goal is to try and get her to make a few good shots and have fun.
My mom is 70....her husband 78.....they both golf regularly. They don't hit it a mile, but I golf with them and they move along great.
I forgot the part about where we argue when I make a suggestion.
My buddy (the scratch golfer) also said to not "give advice" on the course. Just remind her to get the proper grip and stance and let them take it from there. I think that's a good approach.
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ask me what she's doing wrong
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I forgot the part about where we argue when I make a suggestion.
My buddy (the scratch golfer) also said to not "give advice" on the course. Just remind her to get the proper grip and stance and let them take it from there. I think that's a good approach.
Spend a couple of bucks and get her a few lessons (most pro's will actually be willing to sell packages for a slight discount). After a few lessons, see if any of the local club's (private or public) have a ladies league. Most of the ladies leagues are always looking for new members, and she could get valuable experience playing with her peers in a low pressure atmosphere.
Finally, try and always keep it fun. Have a few drinks, look for things like Night Golf Tourney's or Scotch Doubles (Guy/Girl Alternate Shot).
My wife started by joining me at the club one day for a Scotch Doubles Outing (we needed an extra team so I volunteered us). She has never picked up the game fully, but we often enjoy going out on an afternoon and knocking it around a bit.
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Hutch's advise is spot on !
Spend a couple of bucks and get her a few lessons (most pro's will actually be willing to sell packages for a slight discount). After a few lessons, see if any of the local club's (private or public) have a ladies league. Most of the ladies leagues are always looking for new members, and she could get valuable experience playing with her peers in a low pressure atmosphere.
Finally, try and always keep it fun. Have a few drinks, look for things like Night Golf Tourney's or Scotch Doubles (Guy/Girl Alternate Shot).
My wife started by joining me at the club one day for a Scotch Doubles Outing (we needed an extra team so I volunteered us). She has never picked up the game fully, but we often enjoy going out on an afternoon and knocking it around a bit.
I did pretty much exactly what you recommended with her stance, her grip, her swing, ball placement on the tee inside her feet, and no matter what I try, she still tops the ball.
She teed off once Sunday, stood straight up, and missed the ball by a mile, and I explained to her that she had to stay down, keep her eye on the ball, to which she replied " I DID "
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Hutch
good stuff,
I did pretty much exactly what you recommended with her stance, her grip, her swing, ball placement on the tee inside her feet, and no matter what I try, she still tops the ball.
She teed off once Sunday, stood straight up, and missed the ball by a mile, and I explained to her that she had to stay down, keep her eye on the ball, to which she replied " I DID "
The toughest question of all, It depends how you play if your a chopper that just likes to play and plays every so often don't worry about it take her when she wants to go and let her hack away and play stupid basically otherwise your gonna get in an argument about either your teaching skills or her playing skills not worth it trust me.
Best thing to do is pay for her to go to a pro, if she's hot.. find an old ugly pro.. that knows how to teach and pay for some lessons or find a beginners clinic and pay for her to attend tell her when she can break 100 she be good enough to play with you...Hahaha funny subject.
Face it Dude you were doomed when you bought her the clubs...rookie move but you'll get over it but your boys won't....
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The toughest question of all, It depends how you play if your a chopper that just likes to play and plays every so often don't worry about it take her when she wants to go and let her hack away and play stupid basically otherwise your gonna get in an argument about either your teaching skills or her playing skills not worth it trust me.
Best thing to do is pay for her to go to a pro, if she's hot.. find an old ugly pro.. that knows how to teach and pay for some lessons or find a beginners clinic and pay for her to attend tell her when she can break 100 she be good enough to play with you...Hahaha funny subject.
Face it Dude you were doomed when you bought her the clubs...rookie move but you'll get over it but your boys won't....
I find it more humorous now knowing that many of you have experienced what I am going through. Let me tell you how we spent a few hours lastnight. She insisted that I watch a few golfing tutorials on Youtube with her, so that I could help her understand what they were saying, and then watched The Haney Project on The Golf Channel with Ray Romano.
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I find it more humorous now knowing that many of you have experienced what I am going through. Let me tell you how we spent a few hours lastnight. She insisted that I watch a few golfing tutorials on Youtube with her, so that I could help her understand what they were saying, and then watched The Haney Project on The Golf Channel with Ray Romano.
I've got some advice. Leave her at home and go golf with your friends. My wife begged me to go with once, it was brutal.
Thats probably the best advice. Next time she says she wants to golf, drink a bottle of wine with her and take her down to the Pirates Cove miniputt. If she likes gambling make stupid bets on certain holes or the round. Example: loser of the round has to eat the others butthole afterwards!
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Quote Originally Posted by gfinger:
I've got some advice. Leave her at home and go golf with your friends. My wife begged me to go with once, it was brutal.
Thats probably the best advice. Next time she says she wants to golf, drink a bottle of wine with her and take her down to the Pirates Cove miniputt. If she likes gambling make stupid bets on certain holes or the round. Example: loser of the round has to eat the others butthole afterwards!
Yeah Tide, you fucked up royally here. Most guys go to the golf course to get away from their woman or women in Tiger's case. Why did you go get clubs right away? You should have said that clubs are an expensive purchase and told her to wait and make sure this is not some kick that she's on and make sure she truly enjoys golf.
I think all men should have a hobby where the woman is not allowed to impose. It's good to have those much needed breaks from the daily headaches they give us.
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Yeah Tide, you fucked up royally here. Most guys go to the golf course to get away from their woman or women in Tiger's case. Why did you go get clubs right away? You should have said that clubs are an expensive purchase and told her to wait and make sure this is not some kick that she's on and make sure she truly enjoys golf.
I think all men should have a hobby where the woman is not allowed to impose. It's good to have those much needed breaks from the daily headaches they give us.
I did pretty much exactly what you recommended with her stance, her grip, her swing, ball placement on the tee inside her feet, and no matter what I try, she still tops the ball.
She teed off once Sunday, stood straight up, and missed the ball by a mile, and I explained to her that she had to stay down, keep her eye on the ball, to which she replied " I DID "
That is EXACTLY what my gal does. You mention something to her and she says, "I did."
Best cure for that is a lesson. I remember way back when I took my first lesson. My backswing was flat and hence I was coming over the top in my swing and outside in...slice. I didn't realize it until I took a lesson and saw it on film. Now at least I can get my hands on the proper position on my backswing. Would have never figured it out without having video.
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Quote Originally Posted by tideman:
Hutch
good stuff,
I did pretty much exactly what you recommended with her stance, her grip, her swing, ball placement on the tee inside her feet, and no matter what I try, she still tops the ball.
She teed off once Sunday, stood straight up, and missed the ball by a mile, and I explained to her that she had to stay down, keep her eye on the ball, to which she replied " I DID "
That is EXACTLY what my gal does. You mention something to her and she says, "I did."
Best cure for that is a lesson. I remember way back when I took my first lesson. My backswing was flat and hence I was coming over the top in my swing and outside in...slice. I didn't realize it until I took a lesson and saw it on film. Now at least I can get my hands on the proper position on my backswing. Would have never figured it out without having video.
Oh dude say it ain't soo...seeing as this is getting serious we are going to call on the golf doctor....
The doctor is famous for saving many golf marriages.
Here's how you weasel out with face....
1. Explain to her what a complicated and personal game golf is and that it takes years of practice and dedication to play well.Explain to her that there are many different approachs to teaching the game and many different levels of competitiveness in people who play.Explain to her that the game is as much about socialization as it is score.VERY IMPORTANT....
2. Then explain that there are many approaches to play and many different ideas that require professional help,VERY IMPORTANT.....
3. Get her a funny golf book that shows comman stupid golf mistakes and proper of ediqutte,buy her a rulebook....
And the master stroke...............
Explain to her how much you value your relationship with her and that you really don't feel comfortable giving her advise or being her teacher....tell her you do not consider yourself qualified and rather than teach her a possibly faulted approach you will help her find a teacher....thus escaping the personal pain of teaching or playing with your wife until she is comfortable that she can keep pace in a public situation.
One other word of advise try and find another women who plays to team her up with perhaps a friends wife who already plays and may have some knowledge about teachers.
And finally... MOST IMPORTANT AVOID at all costs. Scotch situations any husband & wife social golf thing until much farther down this very rocky road if you slip up here you may need physiatric help before this is all over.
BOL bro your gonna need it..........
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Oh dude say it ain't soo...seeing as this is getting serious we are going to call on the golf doctor....
The doctor is famous for saving many golf marriages.
Here's how you weasel out with face....
1. Explain to her what a complicated and personal game golf is and that it takes years of practice and dedication to play well.Explain to her that there are many different approachs to teaching the game and many different levels of competitiveness in people who play.Explain to her that the game is as much about socialization as it is score.VERY IMPORTANT....
2. Then explain that there are many approaches to play and many different ideas that require professional help,VERY IMPORTANT.....
3. Get her a funny golf book that shows comman stupid golf mistakes and proper of ediqutte,buy her a rulebook....
And the master stroke...............
Explain to her how much you value your relationship with her and that you really don't feel comfortable giving her advise or being her teacher....tell her you do not consider yourself qualified and rather than teach her a possibly faulted approach you will help her find a teacher....thus escaping the personal pain of teaching or playing with your wife until she is comfortable that she can keep pace in a public situation.
One other word of advise try and find another women who plays to team her up with perhaps a friends wife who already plays and may have some knowledge about teachers.
And finally... MOST IMPORTANT AVOID at all costs. Scotch situations any husband & wife social golf thing until much farther down this very rocky road if you slip up here you may need physiatric help before this is all over.
my wife started playing with me about 5 years ago and like you, i was nervous as hell when she first got interested. just have some patience. i thought my wife would never get it, and now, she can certainly hold her own. we go 18 together about 2 or 3 times a month. its been great for our marriage, not that it was bad to begin with, but i love the fact that we have golf in common. we never argue on the course, we just enjoy each other and the game. give it some time, i promise it will be worth it.
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my wife started playing with me about 5 years ago and like you, i was nervous as hell when she first got interested. just have some patience. i thought my wife would never get it, and now, she can certainly hold her own. we go 18 together about 2 or 3 times a month. its been great for our marriage, not that it was bad to begin with, but i love the fact that we have golf in common. we never argue on the course, we just enjoy each other and the game. give it some time, i promise it will be worth it.
Thanks for the feedback guys. Alot of good sound advice, and alot of comments that eased some of the tension by giving me a good laugh.
When we got home from golfing Sunday, she took a few balls from her bag and wanted me to work with her in our yard on chipping, bump and runs, and just help her with her overall decision making on where her ball placement should be in her stance for each club etc. I feel bad for getting aggrevated at her, especially when she finally does make a good shot, and she turns around and smiles a great big smile. Yes boys, I stepped in it bigtime, because she is sincere in wanting to play, and wanting to improve. Lastnight she was online, and I asked what she was doing, and she said "reading the rules for golf" I may record her and her swing and put on here to see if anyone has a few suggestions on what she could do or should do differently in her swing. To me in realtime her swing looks good, but she consistantly tops ball after ball
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Thanks for the feedback guys. Alot of good sound advice, and alot of comments that eased some of the tension by giving me a good laugh.
When we got home from golfing Sunday, she took a few balls from her bag and wanted me to work with her in our yard on chipping, bump and runs, and just help her with her overall decision making on where her ball placement should be in her stance for each club etc. I feel bad for getting aggrevated at her, especially when she finally does make a good shot, and she turns around and smiles a great big smile. Yes boys, I stepped in it bigtime, because she is sincere in wanting to play, and wanting to improve. Lastnight she was online, and I asked what she was doing, and she said "reading the rules for golf" I may record her and her swing and put on here to see if anyone has a few suggestions on what she could do or should do differently in her swing. To me in realtime her swing looks good, but she consistantly tops ball after ball
my wife started playing with me about 5 years ago and like you, i was nervous as hell when she first got interested. just have some patience. i thought my wife would never get it, and now, she can certainly hold her own. we go 18 together about 2 or 3 times a month. its been great for our marriage, not that it was bad to begin with, but i love the fact that we have golf in common. we never argue on the course, we just enjoy each other and the game. give it some time, i promise it will be worth it.
Thats what I am hoping for
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Quote Originally Posted by DaimondD:
my wife started playing with me about 5 years ago and like you, i was nervous as hell when she first got interested. just have some patience. i thought my wife would never get it, and now, she can certainly hold her own. we go 18 together about 2 or 3 times a month. its been great for our marriage, not that it was bad to begin with, but i love the fact that we have golf in common. we never argue on the course, we just enjoy each other and the game. give it some time, i promise it will be worth it.
we go 18 together about 2 or 3 times a month. its been great for our marriage, not that it was bad to begin with, but i love the fact that we have golf in common. we never argue on the course, we just enjoy each other and the game. give it some time, i promise it will be worth it.
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That is what it's all about.
Tide-
You play enough....you know if she's topping the ball, she's pulling off. Now it's just a matter or fixing it. My gal does the same thing. She's not that athletic and not that strong.....and I think you yank off it when you're trying to get some power and get that club through the hitting zone (we've all been there). The thing that helped me is when I decided to let gravity help with the work. One of the biggest mistakes for an amateur (certainly me) is being in too much of a hurry to get to the ball. Screws everything up (from timing to keeping your swing level).
There is a reason that you hit the ball the farthest when you don't seem to try to hit it that hard.
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we go 18 together about 2 or 3 times a month. its been great for our marriage, not that it was bad to begin with, but i love the fact that we have golf in common. we never argue on the course, we just enjoy each other and the game. give it some time, i promise it will be worth it.
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That is what it's all about.
Tide-
You play enough....you know if she's topping the ball, she's pulling off. Now it's just a matter or fixing it. My gal does the same thing. She's not that athletic and not that strong.....and I think you yank off it when you're trying to get some power and get that club through the hitting zone (we've all been there). The thing that helped me is when I decided to let gravity help with the work. One of the biggest mistakes for an amateur (certainly me) is being in too much of a hurry to get to the ball. Screws everything up (from timing to keeping your swing level).
There is a reason that you hit the ball the farthest when you don't seem to try to hit it that hard.
we go 18 together about 2 or 3 times a month. its been great for our marriage, not that it was bad to begin with, but i love the fact that we have golf in common. we never argue on the course, we just enjoy each other and the game. give it some time, i promise it will be worth it.
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That is what it's all about.
Tide-
You play enough....you know if she's topping the ball, she's pulling off. Now it's just a matter or fixing it. My gal does the same thing. She's not that athletic and not that strong.....and I think you yank off it when you're trying to get some power and get that club through the hitting zone (we've all been there). The thing that helped me is when I decided to let gravity help with the work. One of the biggest mistakes for an amateur (certainly me) is being in too much of a hurry to get to the ball. Screws everything up (from timing to keeping your swing level).
There is a reason that you hit the ball the farthest when you don't seem to try to hit it that hard.
There is no doubt that she lifts her head up alot, and some of it is that she raises up at her waist, but I am also thinking she tops alot of them because she rocks back toward her plant foot some. Its just so hard to tell without being able to put it in slow motion. One thing is for sure, she either has to learn to stay down, or either I must find a store that carries 6 inch tees.
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Quote Originally Posted by HutchEmAll:
we go 18 together about 2 or 3 times a month. its been great for our marriage, not that it was bad to begin with, but i love the fact that we have golf in common. we never argue on the course, we just enjoy each other and the game. give it some time, i promise it will be worth it.
___________
That is what it's all about.
Tide-
You play enough....you know if she's topping the ball, she's pulling off. Now it's just a matter or fixing it. My gal does the same thing. She's not that athletic and not that strong.....and I think you yank off it when you're trying to get some power and get that club through the hitting zone (we've all been there). The thing that helped me is when I decided to let gravity help with the work. One of the biggest mistakes for an amateur (certainly me) is being in too much of a hurry to get to the ball. Screws everything up (from timing to keeping your swing level).
There is a reason that you hit the ball the farthest when you don't seem to try to hit it that hard.
There is no doubt that she lifts her head up alot, and some of it is that she raises up at her waist, but I am also thinking she tops alot of them because she rocks back toward her plant foot some. Its just so hard to tell without being able to put it in slow motion. One thing is for sure, she either has to learn to stay down, or either I must find a store that carries 6 inch tees.
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The toughest question of all, It depends how you play if your a chopper that just likes to play and plays every so often don't worry about it take her when she wants to go and let her hack away and play stupid basically otherwise your gonna get in an argument about either your teaching skills or her playing skills not worth it trust me.
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