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Quote Originally Posted by dl36:
For me I did not cry on the last episode... But I did cry the episode where Will's biological father returns, the one that KevK speaks of... That one gets me everytime...
If you are a real "Fresh Prince fan", then you know the episode that I am talking about... Will's father comes back trying to get a relationship and Will is initially resistant/gaurded to this based on their history... Will then starts to open up and then jumps in too fast wanting to have a relationship with his father who then lets him down again and his Will's wall goes up as he has gotten hurt again being vulnerable...
The episode ends with a emotional Will Smith who does a great job in his acting ability ranting to Uncle Phil about how he does not need his father and then breaks down crying asking why his father does not want him...
I get choked up just thinking about the scene because of the good acting which was the first sign that Will Smith could do more then just crack jokes...
It is also a good depiction of what an attachment disorder looks like with children of parents that did not bond... There are three basic types...
An inhibitted type where the child is slow/reluctant to bond as Will is in the beginning...
The disinhibitted type where the child is too quick to bond and makes them self vulnerable and open to re-traumatization as Will becomes as the show goes on...
And finally the mixed type that we learn that Will most likely fits in him wanting a father and at the same time rejecting a dependency on a male figure...
This some what explains the last episode and his initial difficulty with the break up of the family he bonded to and his thinking that he will now be all alone and does not want anyone to worry about him, yet has no solid plan for independence...
Will then is told that he would remain bonded to this Aunt and Uncle with a weekly phone call like the rest of the children in the family and that their bond is beyond one of physical proximity and a place to ship the troubled Philidephia teen off to because of "one little fight" and his mother fearing that he will go down a bad path...
The true quality of the bonding is what is left over once the people part... Will is then able to internalize the bond and that his uncle is proud of him and supporting him emotionally even if he can not see or hear his uncle...
Sounds pretty deep, but this is actually pretty textbook for what I do as a therapist... So when something is done well I really give it props... 
here's the clip where Will's Dad walks out on Will (gets me every time)
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