Basically I am 23, been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years. She is my first true love but just yesterday she said she wanted to take a break. She is an only child and has that single child attitude which I absolutely fucking hate. She freaks out about every small thing. For example, if I follow a girl from HS or college on twitter without even talking to them, she needs to know everything about that girl. I have not been able to keep contact with my past friends that were female because of her. She also has that attitude that every girl wants me and I can't possibly be anywhere with another girl that she doesnt know.
I am in Cleveland for an internship and she is 2.5 hrs away. I have a fraternity event the last weekend of March.I want to go and kick it with my boys but she is intent on me not going. Basically the event is where 50+ recent Fraternity brothers get together and catch up with everyone and of course drink. My gf went apeshit when I told her I was going and unlike before when I give in, I am not doing it this time. I spend most of the weekends by myself in my apartment doing nothing, I dont think its the end of the world if I go out and have fun one weekend. Remind you, we have been together 2.5 years and I have never given her reason to cause her to be suspicious to me. If she wanted to go out with her friends, I would not have a problem but she is a teacher so she has that "i dont need to go get drunk anymore" attitude.
We see each other every other weekend for the whole weekend. I have been with her a long time and in the past I have thought about ending things with her but we have always worked it out. I kind of think things are over though. She sometimes cries when I go back but last time she literally didnt stop crying for 15 min so that was odd to me. I kind of think she had it in her head that we would be done soon. She usually lets me know what she wants for Valentines Day by now but I haven't heard a peep.
I pretty much just dont know what to do. I'm tired of being treated the way I get treated, but hard to imagine my life without her. I know I would be fine, it would just feel weird. It actually hit me now that we havent talked since 8 PM last night. Just looking for opinions from people who have been there.
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Basically I am 23, been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years. She is my first true love but just yesterday she said she wanted to take a break. She is an only child and has that single child attitude which I absolutely fucking hate. She freaks out about every small thing. For example, if I follow a girl from HS or college on twitter without even talking to them, she needs to know everything about that girl. I have not been able to keep contact with my past friends that were female because of her. She also has that attitude that every girl wants me and I can't possibly be anywhere with another girl that she doesnt know.
I am in Cleveland for an internship and she is 2.5 hrs away. I have a fraternity event the last weekend of March.I want to go and kick it with my boys but she is intent on me not going. Basically the event is where 50+ recent Fraternity brothers get together and catch up with everyone and of course drink. My gf went apeshit when I told her I was going and unlike before when I give in, I am not doing it this time. I spend most of the weekends by myself in my apartment doing nothing, I dont think its the end of the world if I go out and have fun one weekend. Remind you, we have been together 2.5 years and I have never given her reason to cause her to be suspicious to me. If she wanted to go out with her friends, I would not have a problem but she is a teacher so she has that "i dont need to go get drunk anymore" attitude.
We see each other every other weekend for the whole weekend. I have been with her a long time and in the past I have thought about ending things with her but we have always worked it out. I kind of think things are over though. She sometimes cries when I go back but last time she literally didnt stop crying for 15 min so that was odd to me. I kind of think she had it in her head that we would be done soon. She usually lets me know what she wants for Valentines Day by now but I haven't heard a peep.
I pretty much just dont know what to do. I'm tired of being treated the way I get treated, but hard to imagine my life without her. I know I would be fine, it would just feel weird. It actually hit me now that we havent talked since 8 PM last night. Just looking for opinions from people who have been there.
I know for a fact thats not happening. There are only two males at her school and there married. Shes not that type of the girl. And she is a 5th grade intervention specialist, so I sure as hell hope she doesnt have anything going on with a student
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I know for a fact thats not happening. There are only two males at her school and there married. Shes not that type of the girl. And she is a 5th grade intervention specialist, so I sure as hell hope she doesnt have anything going on with a student
You don't like the way you're being treated, yet can't imagine being without her?
Okay. You and your gal need to have a long talk. You have to tell her what you've told us. You don't, you are living a lie. All the stuff you told us........................tell her.
You want to do the frat thing-tell her how important it is to you, and that your frat buddies are people you are going to know for the rest of your life. Not ALL of them of course, but I'm sure there are a couple that are best buds.
The Valentine thing also. You HAVE to mention that this has not been discussed as per usual. Ask her why. Why the delay? Are you unsure about something?
Not talking will do you no good. Out of sight out of mind does not work. Neither does thinking about her 100% of the time you're apart, either.
Start talking, or you will end up not talking..............
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You don't like the way you're being treated, yet can't imagine being without her?
Okay. You and your gal need to have a long talk. You have to tell her what you've told us. You don't, you are living a lie. All the stuff you told us........................tell her.
You want to do the frat thing-tell her how important it is to you, and that your frat buddies are people you are going to know for the rest of your life. Not ALL of them of course, but I'm sure there are a couple that are best buds.
The Valentine thing also. You HAVE to mention that this has not been discussed as per usual. Ask her why. Why the delay? Are you unsure about something?
Not talking will do you no good. Out of sight out of mind does not work. Neither does thinking about her 100% of the time you're apart, either.
Start talking, or you will end up not talking..............
Capone, you're a young kid man. You have your whole life ahead of you. It sounds like your relationship with this girl has run it's course. It's not easy to break away from it, but in 6 months to a year, you'll look back and it will be the greatest decision you ever made.
Let her go and enjoy your 20's. You don't need to spend the best years of your life mulling over some broad. Once you get her out of your head, you'll meet another one - trust me.
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Capone, you're a young kid man. You have your whole life ahead of you. It sounds like your relationship with this girl has run it's course. It's not easy to break away from it, but in 6 months to a year, you'll look back and it will be the greatest decision you ever made.
Let her go and enjoy your 20's. You don't need to spend the best years of your life mulling over some broad. Once you get her out of your head, you'll meet another one - trust me.
"If it's not champagne and roses now, it will never be."
She's your first love and it sounds like that's all she needs to ever be. Learn from this relationship what you want and don't want from your next. Let it end and enjoy Cleveland.
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A friend's dad once told me:
"If it's not champagne and roses now, it will never be."
She's your first love and it sounds like that's all she needs to ever be. Learn from this relationship what you want and don't want from your next. Let it end and enjoy Cleveland.
I respectfully say this, but it sounds like your gf is way too
overprotective. You're young and want to have a good time with your
buddies, nothing wrong with that. You also sound like a stand up and
trustworthy person and haven't given her a reason to be so insecure.
It seems that she is trying to overpower you with the threat of going on
a break, just because you want to go to the fraternity event (I could
be assessing the situation wrong, but from your post that's what it
sounds like).
I'm also 23 and ended a 4+ year relationship this past fall. It was
definitely necessary, since we are both young and
need to experience adult life as individuals. But it was the toughest
thing I've ever had to do. I cared about this girl more than anything
and could picture a future with her if we were older. We have begun to
talk again, but it is obviously tough... you will need to have thick
skin at times and be the bigger person if you do go through with this.
Our biggest problem was that since we had been together for so long, we
had developed many mutual friends and that definitely became an issue.
It sounds like you are in a good situation if you do want to take a
break, since you live away from her - which lessens the chance of
running into her at social events with friends, etc. You cannot go into
this break with the mindset that you will get back
together with her or you will never truly be free from her.
I will say this though... breaks often complicate a relationship more
than save it. My ex has since talked about getting back together in the
future and I initially thought that would be the ideal situation.
However, there is definitely more baggage with the relationship now and
I'm not sure we will ever be able to overcome that. It really will be
the ultimate test of the strength of our relationship if we do try in the future.
What I'm getting at is that this most "breaks" don't strengthen a
relationship they end them. The one positive of that is that you will never
wonder "what if" or "what else is out there" or "do I deserve better" with her anymore. Within a reasonable amount of time
you will know if she is the one for you or not.
If I were you I would have a serious conversation with her about how you
feel and what is bothering you. On the flip side, there is obviously a
reason she wants to go on a break and it might give you more insight
into how and what see is feeling. If she gives you some lame reason,
know you are better than that and move on with your life. However, if
you can work things out and you see a future with this girl then I
recommend you try that because if you go on a break there is a strong possibility you
lose her forever (for better or for worse).
Overall, it doesn't sound like you are very happy with the relationship
right now. She needs to be treating you better and you need to be strong
and not cave if she isn't going to do that.
Good Luck
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I respectfully say this, but it sounds like your gf is way too
overprotective. You're young and want to have a good time with your
buddies, nothing wrong with that. You also sound like a stand up and
trustworthy person and haven't given her a reason to be so insecure.
It seems that she is trying to overpower you with the threat of going on
a break, just because you want to go to the fraternity event (I could
be assessing the situation wrong, but from your post that's what it
sounds like).
I'm also 23 and ended a 4+ year relationship this past fall. It was
definitely necessary, since we are both young and
need to experience adult life as individuals. But it was the toughest
thing I've ever had to do. I cared about this girl more than anything
and could picture a future with her if we were older. We have begun to
talk again, but it is obviously tough... you will need to have thick
skin at times and be the bigger person if you do go through with this.
Our biggest problem was that since we had been together for so long, we
had developed many mutual friends and that definitely became an issue.
It sounds like you are in a good situation if you do want to take a
break, since you live away from her - which lessens the chance of
running into her at social events with friends, etc. You cannot go into
this break with the mindset that you will get back
together with her or you will never truly be free from her.
I will say this though... breaks often complicate a relationship more
than save it. My ex has since talked about getting back together in the
future and I initially thought that would be the ideal situation.
However, there is definitely more baggage with the relationship now and
I'm not sure we will ever be able to overcome that. It really will be
the ultimate test of the strength of our relationship if we do try in the future.
What I'm getting at is that this most "breaks" don't strengthen a
relationship they end them. The one positive of that is that you will never
wonder "what if" or "what else is out there" or "do I deserve better" with her anymore. Within a reasonable amount of time
you will know if she is the one for you or not.
If I were you I would have a serious conversation with her about how you
feel and what is bothering you. On the flip side, there is obviously a
reason she wants to go on a break and it might give you more insight
into how and what see is feeling. If she gives you some lame reason,
know you are better than that and move on with your life. However, if
you can work things out and you see a future with this girl then I
recommend you try that because if you go on a break there is a strong possibility you
lose her forever (for better or for worse).
Overall, it doesn't sound like you are very happy with the relationship
right now. She needs to be treating you better and you need to be strong
and not cave if she isn't going to do that.
It's clearly time to move on. The crying and over-reactions to things like twitter will only continue. Do you really want that to continue in your life. Absolutely not. So you have options, be a man and tell her what you want to do (drink with the guys, look at all the twitter you want) and she accepts that or she doesn't and more likely than not you move on meet someone else and find relationships and life experiences outside your current situation.
The best advice/tip you will ever get off this site is today and that being your only 23 and you won't believe how many more women you will meet in your life and yes you will forget about her so much quicker than you realize today- It's time to move on.
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It's clearly time to move on. The crying and over-reactions to things like twitter will only continue. Do you really want that to continue in your life. Absolutely not. So you have options, be a man and tell her what you want to do (drink with the guys, look at all the twitter you want) and she accepts that or she doesn't and more likely than not you move on meet someone else and find relationships and life experiences outside your current situation.
The best advice/tip you will ever get off this site is today and that being your only 23 and you won't believe how many more women you will meet in your life and yes you will forget about her so much quicker than you realize today- It's time to move on.
Sorry Capone but your girl sounds quite questionable. Maybe it is just that she is still a child and makes these ridiculously immature demands/decisions. I find it quite pathetic! If my girl EVER told me something like I "CAN"T" go somewhere, good luck seeing how that would go over. Now I'm talking about normal stuff like parties and going out to bars/clubs with the guys or a group. I'm always reasonable and mature enough to not expect her to feel it's okay I head to the strip club and such.
You sound mature enough and as another poster said in here if it isn't all good now good luck in the future. You're currently already giving in to her demands. You will lose any resemblance of the shrinking by the moment balls you have. This is just not a healthy sounding relationship. Don't waste your Twenties!!! Here's a hint. For the guys like us that don't cheat, respect our girls, treat them well, are considerate of feelings, etc. there are actually girls that aren't petty and actually have self confidence and won't give you shit for going to a party. For fucks sake I actually thank you for sharing this cause it reminds me how good I have it and don't have a whinny, demanding broad! GL Capone!!!
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Sorry Capone but your girl sounds quite questionable. Maybe it is just that she is still a child and makes these ridiculously immature demands/decisions. I find it quite pathetic! If my girl EVER told me something like I "CAN"T" go somewhere, good luck seeing how that would go over. Now I'm talking about normal stuff like parties and going out to bars/clubs with the guys or a group. I'm always reasonable and mature enough to not expect her to feel it's okay I head to the strip club and such.
You sound mature enough and as another poster said in here if it isn't all good now good luck in the future. You're currently already giving in to her demands. You will lose any resemblance of the shrinking by the moment balls you have. This is just not a healthy sounding relationship. Don't waste your Twenties!!! Here's a hint. For the guys like us that don't cheat, respect our girls, treat them well, are considerate of feelings, etc. there are actually girls that aren't petty and actually have self confidence and won't give you shit for going to a party. For fucks sake I actually thank you for sharing this cause it reminds me how good I have it and don't have a whinny, demanding broad! GL Capone!!!
Sorry Capone but your girl sounds quite questionable. Maybe it is just that she is still a child and makes these ridiculously immature demands/decisions. I find it quite pathetic! If my girl EVER told me something like I "CAN"T" go somewhere, good luck seeing how that would go over. Now I'm talking about normal stuff like parties and going out to bars/clubs with the guys or a group. I'm always reasonable and mature enough to not expect her to feel it's okay I head to the strip club and such.
You sound mature enough and as another poster said in here if it isn't all good now good luck in the future. You're currently already giving in to her demands. You will lose any resemblance of the shrinking by the moment balls you have. This is just not a healthy sounding relationship. Don't waste your Twenties!!! Here's a hint. For the guys like us that don't cheat, respect our girls, treat them well, are considerate of feelings, etc. there are actually girls that aren't petty and actually have self confidence and won't give you shit for going to a party. For fucks sake I actually thank you for sharing this cause it reminds me how good I have it and don't have a whinny, demanding broad! GL Capone!!!
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Quote Originally Posted by minion0812:
Sorry Capone but your girl sounds quite questionable. Maybe it is just that she is still a child and makes these ridiculously immature demands/decisions. I find it quite pathetic! If my girl EVER told me something like I "CAN"T" go somewhere, good luck seeing how that would go over. Now I'm talking about normal stuff like parties and going out to bars/clubs with the guys or a group. I'm always reasonable and mature enough to not expect her to feel it's okay I head to the strip club and such.
You sound mature enough and as another poster said in here if it isn't all good now good luck in the future. You're currently already giving in to her demands. You will lose any resemblance of the shrinking by the moment balls you have. This is just not a healthy sounding relationship. Don't waste your Twenties!!! Here's a hint. For the guys like us that don't cheat, respect our girls, treat them well, are considerate of feelings, etc. there are actually girls that aren't petty and actually have self confidence and won't give you shit for going to a party. For fucks sake I actually thank you for sharing this cause it reminds me how good I have it and don't have a whinny, demanding broad! GL Capone!!!
"If it's not champagne and roses now, it will never be."
She's your first love and it sounds like that's all she needs to ever be. Learn from this relationship what you want and don't want from your next. Let it end and enjoy Cleveland.
Nice quote.
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Quote Originally Posted by NastyNate9:
A friend's dad once told me:
"If it's not champagne and roses now, it will never be."
She's your first love and it sounds like that's all she needs to ever be. Learn from this relationship what you want and don't want from your next. Let it end and enjoy Cleveland.
Dump the broad. Unless you are into the whole psycho broad control freak thing. Way too many women out there. Younger women out there too that are probably more emotionally secure/mature than this skunk.
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Dump the broad. Unless you are into the whole psycho broad control freak thing. Way too many women out there. Younger women out there too that are probably more emotionally secure/mature than this skunk.
I think Nate's take is pretty much right on. I don't know about "never," but it's pretty clear that if you keep going down this track, it's not going to get any better. Some guys love to be bossed around their whole life. If, however, you're not one of them, you'd better get out before you waste more time with her. If maye she is "the one," then you showing some spine now is absolutely necessary. If she isn't, then she's saved you a bunch of time by asking for a break. GL.
Be careful at the end of March. My next-door neighbor in Cleveland went to a Miami fraternity alumni event, and wound up doing jail time for aggravated assault.
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I think Nate's take is pretty much right on. I don't know about "never," but it's pretty clear that if you keep going down this track, it's not going to get any better. Some guys love to be bossed around their whole life. If, however, you're not one of them, you'd better get out before you waste more time with her. If maye she is "the one," then you showing some spine now is absolutely necessary. If she isn't, then she's saved you a bunch of time by asking for a break. GL.
Be careful at the end of March. My next-door neighbor in Cleveland went to a Miami fraternity alumni event, and wound up doing jail time for aggravated assault.
Yeah as hard as it is is sounds like its time to cut ties with this gal. I am 23 my self and ended a 3 year relationship with my ex gf a couple years back (my first love too) but like someone said above...its only your first love and thats it. Its tough to swallow this and it took me a few months to actually believe it and understand that it was the case. But time heals all wounds...you will see.
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Yeah as hard as it is is sounds like its time to cut ties with this gal. I am 23 my self and ended a 3 year relationship with my ex gf a couple years back (my first love too) but like someone said above...its only your first love and thats it. Its tough to swallow this and it took me a few months to actually believe it and understand that it was the case. But time heals all wounds...you will see.
wait till your in your 30's-40's and then you'll realize how much of a box whipped bitch you are to the women who you're unhappy with.
some of my friends are so miserable, they get treated like shit from their women. i pity you fools who can't control their own life or future wife.
I pity and laugh at the same time. Just pathetic seeing men being controlled by women. Learn the game then master the game! Having/finding the right girl is everything. Never settle for these dumbass control freaks or never settle being the little bitch you are being the one controlled. So many guys are way too pathetic these days. You're bang on about lots being miserable already only into their 30's. hahahahaha
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Quote Originally Posted by PokinSmot:
all you boys in the 20's...live life la vida loco
wait till your in your 30's-40's and then you'll realize how much of a box whipped bitch you are to the women who you're unhappy with.
some of my friends are so miserable, they get treated like shit from their women. i pity you fools who can't control their own life or future wife.
I pity and laugh at the same time. Just pathetic seeing men being controlled by women. Learn the game then master the game! Having/finding the right girl is everything. Never settle for these dumbass control freaks or never settle being the little bitch you are being the one controlled. So many guys are way too pathetic these days. You're bang on about lots being miserable already only into their 30's. hahahahaha
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