Advice

So my girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years, she's the best girl I've ever dated as far as her qualities go, she has a great job, cooks for me every night, cleans up, does laundry, lets me stay out until 4 am playing poker, doesn't mind if I go to the strip club with my buddies, owns the house that we live in...basically anything you could want from a girl...

Now the bad part, shes not thin, around 200 lbs, and 5'7" she was a thick girl when we started dating which I like, but shes gained weight since then and I've been telling her thats an issue with me for about 2 years now.  She goes to the gym and tries to lose it but it doesn't happen.  Shes still got a pretty face, but I just cant look past the body anymore. 

Our sex life is terrible, probably the worst girl I've been with as far as that goes,  just doesn't have a clue what shes doing, zero sexuality about her and never once have I EVER gotten a blowjob from her.  She'll give me head, but before sex, never just out of the blue and never to completion. 

I have spoken to her dozens of times about all these issues, and nothing seems to work, she never changes anything, and isnt losing any weight.  Its like living with my mother, have everything done for me but don't have any sex.

What are peoples opinions on this?  Could you stay with a girl that was perfect for you, did everything for you, but was overweight and terrible in bed?

Yes, porn all the time, every time she leaves the house, I make the most of it

How old are you Amp? There are lots of fish in the sea, but most are catch and release. You are in a tough spot for sure my friend. More than likely you arent going to find another girl that is super cool and lets you do whatever you want and also pampers you. Sure, you will definately be able to find a girl that can suck a mean one and can thrill you in bed. Problem is, that will fade. then you have to live (if you get in a relationship) with that person. Probably wont cook for you daily and wont be real happy with you staying out late and going to the nudie bar.

The weight issue is super tough, especially once they get comfortable in their situation. Try go with her to the gym in the evenings. Explain to her that you would really love a bj. She seems to cater to you otherwise, so let her know its a pretty big deal to you and it bothers you she wont do it. Have you thought about introducing her to a little porn viewing with you? Maybe that will get her juices flowing.

If you've been with her 4 years, just tell her what you want in bed. Honesty is the only thing thats gonna work because keeping the "rage" built up is gonna lead down a dark road.

bol

get her on a weight watchers plan.

go walk a few miles 3  or 4 days a wk with her.

give her 3 mths. if you dont see improvement, its time to bounce homey.

if you see unwillingness from her to put up a true effort early on, then leave.

the sex sh*t may or may not improve, some ppl are like that.

but the weight issue is imprt. you dont want that. she will balloon even more in time...

gl.

How long have you been trying to get her to listen? More than likely the answer to this should tell you which way to go.Just make sure she understands you aint bullshitting before you leave, since she has been good to you. GL