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that he's been bang'in a new gal.

Problem is my buddy has a few younger kids, a wife and a house. Plus, me and my fiance are close to them and I don't want to blow his cover. So, my fiance can't find out.

This new gal is going through a divorce and has two younger kids.

My buddy is not sure what to do...

I know you've been in a similar situation.

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Do I support him? Do I keep up with his lie with my fiance? Or do I just shut my mouth and say squat? I don't want this to blow up in my face...


 
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depends what support is. In this case be there for him no matter what...he needs you there. Dont say shit. Its not your place. ESP if he is your friend and not like you are friends with her more.
 
What is he looking for with this other chick? Ive never dealt with friends who are married cheating but honestly you gotta get to the core of him and show him what he could lose all over probably just a good bang...
 
you gotta figure out how to show him that though, since you know him and we dont
 
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True, all good points

He tells me that he's simply not attracted to his wifey anymore, physically attracted.

Not sure if he's reaching for a reason here or what.

I'm not going to say shat, but I can tell this is eating at him.

He's seriously considering leaving what he's got for this new gal.

 
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I'd run like hell and stay out of it.  Especially if your fiance is friends with his wife.
 
No upside for you.  He's a big boy and knows what's best for him but if you get caught gossiping about that stuff, you'll get dragged into it.
 
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Don't say a word and forget about it!  If he's dumb enough to risk his life over a piece of ass, let him dig his own grave....Forget about it because it can only mess up your life in the end if you get involved in any way....
 
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Quote Originally Posted by coltmac:

Don't say a word and forget about it!  If he's dumb enough to risk his life over a piece of ass, let him dig his own grave....Forget about it because it can only mess up your life in the end if you get involved in any way....

 
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Just don't go with him when he goes to meet her in a downtown Nashville condo.
 
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well if his wife is getting chunky let him cheat on her and keep your piehole shut
 
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You heard nothing.
 
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Stay out of it.
 
My friend does the same shit, and I told him if that's the way you really feel about your wife, be a real man and leave her. Turns out he's just a box who wants to have his cake and eat it too, what a shocker.
 
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tell him to stop fucking around with the new chick immediately.
 
it will ruin his life if found out, so dont say a word, for now.
 
tell him that you dont want it to come b/w the 4 of you and especially the wifey SO tell him to stop and give him evidence of what will happen.
 
tell him some bullshit about how you knew a friend of a friend that cheated and the wife divorved got the kids and all the money and the house and the guy is miserable. if he has a real world example he will stop unless he is crazy and is a masochist, then he'll just keep on enjying regardless of consequences.
 
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First off, nice alias......
 
Secondly, don't even hang around this fool....When he gets caught, and he will, your lady will start in on you...The whole trust issue...
 
Your buddy is a douchebaqg to be fooling around when he has a wife and kids at home....Fuck em....
COVERS allows u to tell someone they are sexually frustrated so long as ur hands are clean
 
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Quote Originally Posted by ABooksNightmare:

First off, nice alias......
 
Secondly, don't even hang around this fool....When he gets caught, and he will, your lady will start in on you...The whole trust issue...
 
Your buddy is a douchebaqg to be fooling around when he has a wife and kids at home....Fuck em....

 
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So your buddy is getting some side box? Big deal. Sounds like you're just jealous. Man law, you don't say shit.
 
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i know i'm in the minority on this,,,,,,,,,,,,,but,,,,,,,,,,,i don't find it that big of a deal,,,,,nobody has to walk in anyone else's shoes and nobody knows the circumstances surrounding one's marriage.  True, this is coming from a single man who plans on being single for a loooooooooong time---but a man's sexual desire is hard to control (just ask a priest )   People just have this marriage shit instilled in them from early on---and lots of men just marry to marry --cause that's what a "man" does, than they wake up one day like "what the fuck have i done." I agree thats when you should have the balls to tell the wife,,,but---easier said than done,,,,,,,,I just don't like how people associate infidelity with being a bad parent---they are not one and the same.  
 
The words from a sinner,,,,,,,,,,,,pray for me.
 
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never break bro code EVER!!
 
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Quote Originally Posted by cacabware:

i know i'm in the minority on this,,,,,,,,,,,,,but,,,,,,,,,,,i don't find it that big of a deal,,,,,nobody has to walk in anyone else's shoes and nobody knows the circumstances surrounding one's marriage.  True, this is coming from a single man who plans on being single for a loooooooooong time---but a man's sexual desire is hard to control (just ask a priest )   People just have this marriage shit instilled in them from early on---and lots of men just marry to marry --cause that's what a "man" does, than they wake up one day like "what the fuck have i done." I agree thats when you should have the balls to tell the wife,,,but---easier said than done,,,,,,,,I just don't like how people associate infidelity with being a bad parent---they are not one and the same.  
 
The words from a sinner,,,,,,,,,,,,pray for me.


Well said

 
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The point is a man should be a man and one thing you don't do is cheat on your wife and kids. Nothing ever good comes of that......
 
A real man would leave his wife and not sneak around snaking the drain of someone else. If this were my buddy I would be talking shit...
 
A man may want to stray, but how would you feel if your old lady was sneaking around on you....
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In my opinion, be truthful in all matters. As the saying goes " the truth will set you free".

Go to this man and warn him one time. His wife and children's lives are at stake and should be his top proirty, when they are not, he will suffer in the long run.
If he doesn't thank you for the advice, Walk, and find another friend.

I recall the day my only son was born. I was at the hospital my wife and new son. As I left to go home alone, around 8pm, my wife's friend, a beautiful secretary, was leaving at the same time. Believe it or not, she came on to me and asked me if I'd like to go over to her place for the night. Wow, I thought to myself. Some friend you are.
It was tough to refuse But I remember the old saying.

"Don't let Willie Dictate "

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Run. If he doesnt snap out of it that is..
 
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Tell him to allow you to bang his girlfriend, or you will expose his ass.

Extortion at its finest
 
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I bet Eddie George wishes he would've intervened.

Tell him to break it off immediately with this new girl until he decides what he's going to do. If he wants to leave then influence him to divorce her before moving on.
 
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eddie george is doing the same shit
 
 
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Very true. That's why he said only God could judge.


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