how often do you the pay the bill on dates

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Posted: 5/22/2012 3:45:01 PM
if your seriously dating someone how often do youpay the bill if your both making the same money do you pay every time do you do it evenly is it rude to ask the girl to pay?
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Posted: 5/22/2012 4:11:47 PM
It depends on who likes who more.  If you really like this girl, unless you can tell that shes 100% crazy about you, pay the bill.  If you know you can do no wrong.  Have her start paying.
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Posted: 5/22/2012 4:13:51 PM
I'd say about 2/3 to 3/4 of the time.  I always pay the first two times and then usually will let a gal if they offer on the 3rd.  Then I pay 2 out of 3 or 3 out of 4 times on average moving forward.  

I would never ask a girl to pay.  That is tacky.    However, if she hadn't offered by the 4th date, I'd start to wonder why (but by then, you probably already know if she's a money grubber based on your conversations). 

I'm all for the old customs of opening doors, pulling out chairs, walking women to the door, going to the door and picking them up...not just sitting in your car.  I'm into all those things.  But women have been screaming for equality forever.  I'm fine letting them have some when it comes to footing the bills while dating.  

Quite frankly, I couldn't stand dating any woman that would have a problem with this (provided you make somewhat equal money).  I like strong, independent woman....the entitlement factor could NOT be more of a turn off.

When I started dating my current gal, I bought her diamond earings and took her on a surprise weekend trip to Chicago (paid for everything including flight) before I even got a gift from her.  But that was because I wanted to, not because she pressured me.  


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Posted: 5/22/2012 4:18:34 PM
its been my experience that most prostitutes insist on you paying. if she pays you that means you are a pimp.


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Posted: 5/22/2012 10:03:59 PM
in my dating days i always paid. just call me old fashioned.
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Posted: 5/22/2012 10:33:43 PM

Dating.

Have 'a couple beers first and see if they're worthy of any further investment.

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Posted: 5/22/2012 10:42:26 PM

If she says she'll grab a pizza and a video and come over or something like that, that's cool. But I always pay on dates.

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Posted: 5/22/2012 10:47:22 PM
I'm with Dutch.....
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Posted: 5/22/2012 11:00:37 PM
You put seriously dating someone with most the replies seem to address initially dating someone.  To answer the seriously dating someone question, at that point there's no reason why someone making the same as you shouldn't be carrying their fair share on paying the bill.
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Posted: 5/23/2012 1:17:28 PM


behind, Gas, or Grass

NOBODY rides for free!!!
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Posted: 5/23/2012 1:34:29 PM
 You can't be serious, you asked her out. Pick up the tab, Tight behind.
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Posted: 5/23/2012 2:56:43 PM

 I don't carry on very long with a chick that hasn't offered to pay for anything by the 3rd-4th date............just OFFER!, then we'll go from there.

 The last gal I dated was an old HS flame..........I took her to Mexico, Vancouver, Denver, concerts.......& never asked for a dime..........& she RARELY offered.  Then once I met her & her daughter for lunch.........cheap lunch at a mexican restaurant. She did the "I'll pay" with the head fake looking at me to say "no, I'll get it". When I said "thanks" she had to reach in & pay. That night I got bitched out for it............& I ended the relationship right there...........never looked back.

 That may sound cold or indifferent to some, but I've been around long enough to know when I'm gonna get drained by someone. I like doing things for people that genuinely appreciate it, not expect it. If you get that feeling about someone do yourself a favor & don't ignore it.........

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Posted: 5/23/2012 3:38:10 PM
QUOTE Originally Posted by THEMUGG:

 I don't carry on very long with a chick that hasn't offered to pay for anything by the 3rd-4th date............just OFFER!, then we'll go from there.

 The last gal I dated was an old HS flame..........I took her to Mexico, Vancouver, Denver, concerts.......& never asked for a dime..........& she RARELY offered.  Then once I met her & her daughter for lunch.........cheap lunch at a mexican restaurant. She did the "I'll pay" with the head fake looking at me to say "no, I'll get it". When I said "thanks" she had to reach in & pay. That night I got bitched out for it............& I ended the relationship right there...........never looked back.

 That may sound cold or indifferent to some, but I've been around long enough to know when I'm gonna get drained by someone. I like doing things for people that genuinely appreciate it, not expect it. If you get that feeling about someone do yourself a favor & don't ignore it.........


Spot on.

And if I am getting along with a gal and she offers to pay on the 2nd or 3rd date, I will usually say, "you can get it next time if you want."  
You look like the good egg and also plant it in her head that you wouldn't mind if she picked up a tab every once in a while.  
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Posted: 5/23/2012 3:43:11 PM
Every time man 
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Posted: 5/23/2012 3:49:10 PM
we need more facts here..

1) Does she Blow you?
2) Do you choose when to darn or you guys do it mutual?
3) Do you gag her in the face?
4) Does she make you eat her out?
5) Does she do Anal?
6) Does she ride it like a cowgirl? 
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Posted: 5/23/2012 3:49:24 PM
All the time
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Posted: 5/23/2012 4:52:58 PM

i hear ya mug because if you pay everytime your gonna have one of those spoiled chicks who  expects everything to be handed to her why cant the girl man up and pay sometimes she has a job use some of that money you make. 

In all honesty shes the one that wants to go out if a girl ask you what do you want to do tonight your gonna say lets stay in.  If you ask a girl what she wants to do tonight 9 out of 10 time times shes gonna wanna go out and since she wants to go out SHE SHOULD PAY once in a while

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Posted: 5/23/2012 5:19:02 PM
QUOTE Originally Posted by THEMUGG:

 I don't carry on very long with a chick that hasn't offered to pay for anything by the 3rd-4th date............just OFFER!, then we'll go from there.

 The last gal I dated was an old HS flame..........I took her to Mexico, Vancouver, Denver, concerts.......& never asked for a dime..........& she RARELY offered.  Then once I met her & her daughter for lunch.........cheap lunch at a mexican restaurant. She did the "I'll pay" with the head fake looking at me to say "no, I'll get it". When I said "thanks" she had to reach in & pay. That night I got bitched out for it............& I ended the relationship right there...........never looked back.

 That may sound cold or indifferent to some, but I've been around long enough to know when I'm gonna get drained by someone. I like doing things for people that genuinely appreciate it, not expect it. If you get that feeling about someone do yourself a favor & don't ignore it.........

Well said, but the true definition of giving implies that nothing is expected in return. But I do understand where you're at. Charity and goodwill can be abused by the selfish ones, and the giver should be cautious of not getting taken advantage of. 
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Posted: 5/23/2012 6:05:49 PM
Never and that is the truth. I do not ask women out to do things, they ask me and when the bill comes.....It goes right to her

Many men will say that is not manly to have the woman pick up the tab. I say to those men that they have never had the game to pull this move off.

I usually date successful women so money is not an issue with them. I would not have it any other way




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Posted: 5/23/2012 6:08:14 PM
QUOTE Originally Posted by SALTY:

Never and that is the truth. I do not ask women out to do things, they ask me and when the bill comes.....It goes right to her

Many men will say that is not manly to have the woman pick up the tab. I say to those men that they have never had the game to pull this move off.

I usually date successful women so money is not an issue with them. I would not have it any other way







pardon me but this is pure BS
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Posted: 5/23/2012 6:19:23 PM
QUOTE Originally Posted by Mad_Skillz123:




pardon me but this is pure BS

Is it?

May not seem real but I am a lucky guy. No garbage. I do not know how I keep meeting them but have been very consistent with what I mentioned above

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Posted: 5/23/2012 6:27:22 PM
QUOTE Originally Posted by SALTY:

Never and that is the truth. I do not ask women out to do things, they ask me and when the bill comes.....It goes right to her

Many men will say that is not manly to have the woman pick up the tab. I say to those men that they have never had the game to pull this move off.

I usually date successful women so money is not an issue with them. I would not have it any other way





You are legend 
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Posted: 5/23/2012 6:31:14 PM
QUOTE Originally Posted by SALTY:


Is it?

May not seem real but I am a lucky guy. No garbage. I do not know how I keep meeting them but have been very consistent with what I mentioned above




well, you may meet the next one and do your thing to her, but she will see you as a complete fool and a selfish person.

game or no game, pay the friggin bill, be a gentleman.
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Posted: 5/23/2012 6:32:38 PM
Two guys go on a date.....who pays?
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Posted: 5/23/2012 7:09:55 PM
QUOTE Originally Posted by 2169:

Two guys go on a date.....who pays?
the one taking up the butt
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