No BJ - Dealbreaker??

So I met this really sweet girl & we finally consummated our relationship last night. She proceeds to tell me after I took care of her, that she was unable to return the favor. Everything else was great.

So herein lies the question. Is there really any future in this if I'm NEVER gonna get a BJ?? The thought of it makes me ill, but I really like everything else about her. This sucks...

Anybody else ever dealt with this??

Quote Originally Posted by ShootDaClubUp:

time to hit the road 

My gal is overall pretty great (other than always being late), but she's not a blow job fan, either.  She's willing if I ask, but it's not the same (I used to date a gal that loved to swallow and that's a hard pill to.....well......swallow.....after that).  It's the Catholic thing IMO (or maybe she is hiding behind that).  But she's not into me giving her oral either which blows my mind (pardon the pun).    She's a great straight lay, though, so that helps. 

I will tell you this.  I dated a couple of head cases back in the day.  They were crazy good in bed, but absolutely drove me nuts most of the time.  I'll sacrifice a bit in the sex department to be with a gal that is put together for the most part. 

Oh she let you get her off and then all of the sudden she doesn't do that.

You keep from downtown and see if she changes her tune.

Great stuff guys.  So the deal is that supposedly she was sexually abused in this way as a child. She has been very open & honest & says she has tried to work thru it, but she simply cannot do it.

I'm leaning toward deal-breaker

Quote Originally Posted by Nut_Flopper:



Not trying to be a dick but run and run far.

I dated a girl actually 2 now that I think of it that said they were sexually abused as a child. I won't get into details. I sympathized with their situation but they were never able to cope with it and ended up having major issues for which I don't blame them. I just couldn't deal with their neurotic behavior and had to GTFO. If you are not too into her I recommend you GTFO as well because it will haunt you down the road.

In college I dated a chick that always called me “daddy” when we were having sex. I didn’t mind at first, but later she told me she was sexually abused by her step dad when she was 13. It was pretty much over after that.