My buddy who is also in the Army recently moved here and his house is down the street. He's invited me over a few times but I only made it over once because of work and what-not. Anyway, his wife for some reason was kinda stand-offish with me when I met her. No big deal. They are newly-weds, no kids. He leaves next week for a deployment to Afghanistan. I leave a few weeks after him. Anyway, he invites me over for the UFC fight last night but I do not go because I did not want to leave until my son was alseep, as I am spending as much time with him as I can before i leave. My son goes to bed, I pour myself a captain morgan and sit down to watch the fights. Few drinks later, UFC event it complete. My buddy texts me asking me to come drink with him and his friends who are in town visiting him. Wife and son are snug in bed, why not head down there for a few, right?
I go in..meet his friends...good dudes. We are drinking and having fun. Every dude in the room has something in common. We are all in the freakin Army. My buddy takes me aside during one point in the night and asks me to not mention ANYTHING about afghanistan or the army. Ok. He tells me his wife has been crying for days about his upcoming deployment. Honestly, I get it but at the same time I think this is a little weak. They do not have kids...my son was born when I was deployed and I have one due next week...just a week before I deploy again. Gimme a break. This is OUR job. This is what we SIGNED up to do.
An hour goes by....more drinks. Having fun. Playing xbox and all that. My friends wife is again being stand-offish to me but thats ok. One of the other dudes mentions something about a Bronze Star that he was recommending for one of his soldiers. We chat about that for a few. Then I did it. I turned to my friend and said...."you need me to square away anything for your flight next week?" He says ...."I should be good..but thanks for asking."
His wife gets up and STORMS out of the room and storms up the stairs. WTF Bottom line....party ended. Everyone went home.
Should I feel bad about this? Should I apologize? I have mixed feelings.
My buddy who is also in the Army recently moved here and his house is down the street. He's invited me over a few times but I only made it over once because of work and what-not. Anyway, his wife for some reason was kinda stand-offish with me when I met her. No big deal. They are newly-weds, no kids. He leaves next week for a deployment to Afghanistan. I leave a few weeks after him. Anyway, he invites me over for the UFC fight last night but I do not go because I did not want to leave until my son was alseep, as I am spending as much time with him as I can before i leave. My son goes to bed, I pour myself a captain morgan and sit down to watch the fights. Few drinks later, UFC event it complete. My buddy texts me asking me to come drink with him and his friends who are in town visiting him. Wife and son are snug in bed, why not head down there for a few, right?
I go in..meet his friends...good dudes. We are drinking and having fun. Every dude in the room has something in common. We are all in the freakin Army. My buddy takes me aside during one point in the night and asks me to not mention ANYTHING about afghanistan or the army. Ok. He tells me his wife has been crying for days about his upcoming deployment. Honestly, I get it but at the same time I think this is a little weak. They do not have kids...my son was born when I was deployed and I have one due next week...just a week before I deploy again. Gimme a break. This is OUR job. This is what we SIGNED up to do.
An hour goes by....more drinks. Having fun. Playing xbox and all that. My friends wife is again being stand-offish to me but thats ok. One of the other dudes mentions something about a Bronze Star that he was recommending for one of his soldiers. We chat about that for a few. Then I did it. I turned to my friend and said...."you need me to square away anything for your flight next week?" He says ...."I should be good..but thanks for asking."
His wife gets up and STORMS out of the room and storms up the stairs. WTF Bottom line....party ended. Everyone went home.
Should I feel bad about this? Should I apologize? I have mixed feelings.
Sounds to me like she was just waiting for a chance to storm out and turn the attention to herself. She new what she was getting into with the marriage. Much thanks for your service and stay safe.
Sounds to me like she was just waiting for a chance to storm out and turn the attention to herself. She new what she was getting into with the marriage. Much thanks for your service and stay safe.
Not like he's going to the beaches of Normandy. What an overly dramatic box. Husband should man up and tell this box to not ruin the little free time he has before deployment.
Not like he's going to the beaches of Normandy. What an overly dramatic box. Husband should man up and tell this box to not ruin the little free time he has before deployment.
Obviously she's not mature or strong enough to accept the fact that her husband is a soldier and must leave. Personally I think you did that woman favor by administering a thick dose of reality.
Have a good and safe tour Irish. You did absolutely nothing wrong that night.
Obviously she's not mature or strong enough to accept the fact that her husband is a soldier and must leave. Personally I think you did that woman favor by administering a thick dose of reality.
Have a good and safe tour Irish. You did absolutely nothing wrong that night.
I will defend the girl. You don't think she should be upset that her husband is going off to war and could come back in a body bag. I never understood why women marry military guys, most are cheating on them overs seas anyways the fact these people have kids is beyond me
I will defend the girl. You don't think she should be upset that her husband is going off to war and could come back in a body bag. I never understood why women marry military guys, most are cheating on them overs seas anyways the fact these people have kids is beyond me
My gal has a friend whose husband is a Captain and served in Iraq for 18 months. He was expecting to go.....then got word that he wasn't going......they got pregnant....and suddently word game down that he WAS going. She had their baby while he was overseas. She was a rock....I still can't believe how strong she was. He is back and they are all doing great.
Bottom line is, a mere mention of his deployment shouldn't push her over the edge. In my mind, I'd be thinking, "if she can't even talk about it, how is she going to handle it." (But that's an issue between he and her). He did request that you not bring it up and I think it was kind of insensative to do so in front of her. You could have achieved the same result cornering him when no one was around and asking him the same thing. I just don't know why you chose to bring it up when he asked you not to.
My gal has a friend whose husband is a Captain and served in Iraq for 18 months. He was expecting to go.....then got word that he wasn't going......they got pregnant....and suddently word game down that he WAS going. She had their baby while he was overseas. She was a rock....I still can't believe how strong she was. He is back and they are all doing great.
Bottom line is, a mere mention of his deployment shouldn't push her over the edge. In my mind, I'd be thinking, "if she can't even talk about it, how is she going to handle it." (But that's an issue between he and her). He did request that you not bring it up and I think it was kind of insensative to do so in front of her. You could have achieved the same result cornering him when no one was around and asking him the same thing. I just don't know why you chose to bring it up when he asked you not to.
Not a big deal, but your buddy did tell you not to mention it. he may not have told her he was leaving, so he could enjoy his last weeks before he goes.
Not a big deal, but your buddy did tell you not to mention it. he may not have told her he was leaving, so he could enjoy his last weeks before he goes.
Your buddy's wife sounds like the type of person who is going to jump ship on her husband the first chance she gets. When I was deployed in 2003-04 1/2 the guys who were married or in relationships were getting dear john e-mails or letters or some married guys got divorce papers in my unit.
Your buddy's wife sounds like the type of person who is going to jump ship on her husband the first chance she gets. When I was deployed in 2003-04 1/2 the guys who were married or in relationships were getting dear john e-mails or letters or some married guys got divorce papers in my unit.
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