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That being said If you have a big heart and can suck it up, You should probably go."
I do, and I will likely go, I think I just want to vent or complain about it to some of my fellow degenerates who might understand my "!#)(%*!(*@%&!$!" type reaction while I grit my teeth and say "yes, we can go."
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if ur going 4 hours each way, make sure u are staying at the party for
more than 8 hours. doesnt make sense to be on the road more than at a
party."
Of course, the wife wants to make a long weekend out of the trip -- even less fun then for me because NCAAF/NFL will be in full swing.
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you are from california, u can make the gas excuse "hey money is
tight. i blew a load of cash on gambling in vegas a week ago" excuse"
Employment pays for my gas, even for out of town trips, plus my wife and I are both attorneys and the sister-in-law/wife are teachers, so the "we don't have the money" excuse won't have traction even if it was legitimate.
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Normally I'd say do what you want to do as it is your birthday,
Kap. But because of the situation I think the little guy is going to be
better off having you in his life as much as you can afford. Your
sister-in-law and her partner are likely going to be very good parents,
but he will need a male role model to look up to as well"
I think they will be good parents, but there is something to be said for a guy having another guy to look up to, politics be damned IMO. I just hope I don't have to give the kid the birds and bees talk someday
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i think you already know what you're gonna do
i'm sure the wifey will appreciate your sacrifice/contribution"
Eh, we'll see about that. The thing that sucks about these types of events is that if you want to use them as ammunition at a later date -- "did you hear me complain when we had to give up my birthday weekend to go see (nephew) on his first birthday" -- boy, you gotta do that with kid gloves around women or that can really be taken the wrong way.
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ps: you know that if you don't go they'll hold it against you forever, and you don't need that shit hangin in the background
lesbos can be brutal"
Bad karma, don't need that crap.
"Don't know why you take it so personally. Maybe she's having the party on the weekend to accommodate the guests."
That's true, definitely possible as well. I take it personally because, shit man, birthdays are supposed to be the day where you shouldn't have to do a ton of crap you don't want to do, no?
"What does your wifey think about the situation? She probably wants to
go, so do it for her. Don't underestimate the power of giving into your
wifey on things that are important to her. It's what has kept my
marriage healthy for 22 years. "
Wise man -- pick your battles, but the ones you do pick, you gotta be willing to go to war for.
Thanks for the replies fellas.