Video game addiction for kids question?

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DiverRon PM DiverRon
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Posted: 8/26/2012 3:09:51 AM
Hi all:
Got a newfound teenager that's caring a bit too much for video games then I'd like. He can't play for half the week because school and the other the week he can't play all the time (hours restricted) but all he ever wants to do is play these damn pc games including sitting behind pc whole weekend. Wife
And I trying to think of ways to wean him off these crappy pc games (school club is one thing were trying to get him to join soon). My question for you all
Is have any of you ever had experiences with kids and video game addiction and what was your course of action to address?
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Posted: 8/26/2012 3:22:57 AM
No kids here man but I know a little.

Not sure exactly what game or games he is playing but I am guessing that it is World Of Warcraft or some similar endless role playing game.
The ones who get into them, get super serious because that fake garbage in the realm of their game almost becomes their life. They put in work to build their main character and interact with many people the kid considers friends. 

Kinda like we adults do here at the covers forums.......You know the names of the guys you like and then there are guys like scalabrine.

I do not see being super wrapped up in games a bad thing but if he is a total nerd with no overall social motivation. Video games may not be the issue even though it may look like it because that is all he does.
And to break the love greater than life he may have invested in that game you in my opinion need to get him an option a little more cool than school club because that will not replace a damn thing

Could be a phase or he could just not fit in where he is at. I personally do not think the video games are all bad he just needs to have some cooler options
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Posted: 8/26/2012 3:25:52 AM
And if he is a hardcore gamer like it sounds he is.

You will have an easier time getting a veteran crackhead from the ghetto to learn how to ice skate
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Posted: 8/26/2012 3:45:38 AM
Golf, 
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paintball leagues or places where kids meet on the weekend to play paintball games if those are in your area?


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Posted: 8/26/2012 3:55:28 AM
Honestly you need to find things to do together. That's what I try to do. Get him outside. Don't leave it up to him or his school to do anything about it. Let him know how you feel. Theres nothing wrong with playing video games but it can't be the only thing. Stress the importance of enjoying a wide array of activities. In the end its up to you. You are the parent. Its easy to let them keep playing. If you want him to play less you'll have to put in some effort. Best of luck.
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Posted: 8/26/2012 9:49:43 AM
I understand where you are coming from, but a kid his age needs to make his own decisions.  

As a parent, you only have so much ammunition you can use against your child, before the child will rebel.  Video games aren't the best thing for a child, but they are far from the worst.  At least you know where he is, and that he isn't getting into trouble or hanging with the wrong crowd.  


The black-belt parenting move would be to start playing the same video game as your kid.  No kid that age wants to do anything with his dad.  The kid will be outoors playing sports in less than a month.  Reverse psychology almost always works with wives and children.

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Posted: 8/26/2012 11:19:07 AM
You just said it's time restricted so what else can you do? You're allowing him on it for so much time a day I think you're doing better than most other parents. Once he finds the joy of box he will be out of the house more then you want. And count your blessings that you have a teenage boy and not a teenage girl.
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Posted: 8/26/2012 11:35:51 AM
let the kid play games dude. He is a kid one time in his life.

I played games 24/7 when i was little. It increased my psycho-motoric functions and intelligence. i still play games and see nothing wrong with it.

eventually, the game will get boring to your kid.
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Posted: 8/26/2012 12:40:54 PM

So your old behind walks in and says Hey kid lets put down the video games and join "School club"

 

and he didnt jump at the idea?!?!?!!!?!?!

 

i know all i wanted to do in my teen years was "School Club"

 

 

 

 

let the kid play his games, dont be an old man!

 

 

 

hell man, i know plenty of teens that did all kind of illegal and risque things as teens, that coulda ended in people getting hurt or worse............. be happy that your kid is a good guy and if he plays games then thats his vice.... so what

 

how would you like it if he told you to join a certain club and not get on covers anymore and stop gambling!

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Posted: 8/26/2012 1:29:29 PM
QUOTE Originally Posted by thorpe:

I understand where you are coming from, but a kid his age needs to make his own decisions.  

As a parent, you only have so much ammunition you can use against your child, before the child will rebel.  Video games aren't the best thing for a child, but they are far from the worst.  At least you know where he is, and that he isn't getting into trouble or hanging with the wrong crowd.  


The black-belt parenting move would be to start playing the same video game as your kid.  No kid that age wants to do anything with his dad.  The kid will be outoors playing sports in less than a month.  Reverse psychology almost always works with wives and children.


good advice

Reminds me of the World Of Warcraft South Park episode where Randy joins in the game
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Posted: 8/26/2012 4:27:21 PM
QUOTE Originally Posted by Mad_Skillz123:

let the kid play games dude. He is a kid one time in his life.

I played games 24/7 when i was little. It increased my psycho-motoric functions and intelligence. i still play games and see nothing wrong with it.

eventually, the game will get boring to your kid.


Agreed on all accounts
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Posted: 8/26/2012 4:35:15 PM
QUOTE Originally Posted by Mad_Skillz123:

let the kid play games dude. He is a kid one time in his life.

I played games 24/7 when i was little. It increased my psycho-motoric functions and intelligence. i still play games and see nothing wrong with it.

eventually, the game will get boring to your kid.

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Posted: 8/26/2012 5:14:44 PM
Reminds me of the World Of Warcraft South Park episode where Randy joins in the game
 
 
 
 
 
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Posted: 8/27/2012 1:30:04 AM
QUOTE Originally Posted by Mad_Skillz123:

let the kid play games dude. He is a kid one time in his life.

I played games 24/7 when i was little. It increased my psycho-motoric functions and intelligence. i still play games and see nothing wrong with it.

eventually, the game will get boring to your kid.


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Posted: 8/27/2012 3:41:49 AM
it might be the restrictions that create the wanting to do it so much...

perhaps you could lessen the restrictions if agrees to do other things in exchange.  this could include chores, activities, grades etc...

give the kid something to work for and pay him with video games... it will teach him to work for the leisure time he wants... it is easier to get him to do something for positives then try to stop getting him to do things with the threat of negatives...


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Posted: 8/27/2012 5:45:50 AM
My brother used to be all about playing these type of role playing games when he was a teenager. He didn't have much in the way of social skills. Turns out, there was nothing wrong with his social skills, he was just happy. A lot of kids his age that are happy don't have the same network of friends because they feel so different and they don't fit in. We noticed that as he got older a lot of his friend were 15-20 years older than him because he could relate to them more easily and a lot of young kids aren't "out of the closet" yet or they are in denial. I agreed with the post about rewarding him with positives when he does chores and stuff like that. 

One thing about these role playing games that I noticed was, because my brother spent so much time playing them, he was able to "build" his character in the game and a lot of these gamers want all the special powers of the character without putting the time in to achieve them. So what he did was, he would put x number of hours into the character and then he would sell the character or the account to someone who wanted the best without having to spend the time to do it. He did this a few times and each time the characters would go for about $2500. He earned some decent coin doing this although all it did was make him spend more hours on the computer so he could build his newest character to sell.
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Posted: 8/27/2012 8:30:48 AM
QUOTE Originally Posted by timbaland99:

My brother used to be all about playing these type of role playing games when he was a teenager. He didn't have much in the way of social skills. Turns out, there was nothing wrong with his social skills, he was just happy. A lot of kids his age that are happy don't have the same network of friends because they feel so different and they don't fit in. We noticed that as he got older a lot of his friend were 15-20 years older than him because he could relate to them more easily and a lot of young kids aren't "out of the closet" yet or they are in denial. I agreed with the post about rewarding him with positives when he does chores and stuff like that. 

One thing about these role playing games that I noticed was, because my brother spent so much time playing them, he was able to "build" his character in the game and a lot of these gamers want all the special powers of the character without putting the time in to achieve them. So what he did was, he would put x number of hours into the character and then he would sell the character or the account to someone who wanted the best without having to spend the time to do it. He did this a few times and each time the characters would go for about $2500. He earned some decent coin doing this although all it did was make him spend more hours on the computer so he could build his newest character to sell.



those characters in WoW ( World of Warcraft ) are sold for about 200-250$, no 10x more expensive. I know a kid that is doint this garbage and could make about 2-3 a month, but that was if he is going to spend around 12-15h/day on a pc...


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Posted: 8/27/2012 9:36:01 AM
QUOTE Originally Posted by Mad_Skillz123:




those characters in WoW ( World of Warcraft ) are sold for about 200-250$, no 10x more expensive. I know a kid that is doint this garbage and could make about 2-3 a month, but that was if he is going to spend around 12-15h/day on a pc...



This was about 15 years ago and I'm not sure if the character built was for world of warcfraft. The guy may have just overpaid. 
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Posted: 8/27/2012 10:13:49 AM
Kind of simple IF he's had consistent discipline.  You just establish a limit and hold him to it.  

But if you've never been able to say "no" and pretty much folded like a tent during the course of him growing up, you have no chance.

I was at a family gathering this weekend.  One of my nieces came up to her mom and asked her if she could have a juice box (it was before dinner).  My sister says, "you've already had one and we're going to be eating soon.  No dice."  She didn't even argue.  She just turned around and went back to play with her cousins.  Because she's been told "no" before and her parents didn't crumble.  

Who says you need to wean him off the games.  Just establish guidelines (certain number of hours a day) and STICK TO IT.  
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Posted: 8/27/2012 1:43:54 PM
I signed my son up for fall baseball and he wanted to quit after the first practice. he is way into these stupid games and its all he wants to do. I told him im gonna take his ps3 out back and beat the darn out of it with his baseball bat if he dont get back out there. When we were younger we were at the park all the time thsese games are friggin up our youth.
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Posted: 8/27/2012 8:53:32 PM
I used to play Ever Quest...before World of Warcraft was ever created. It was a badass game...I am 24 now. I played a lot when I was like in 8th/9th grade. But a lot of my buddies played too so I interacted with them on there. We played a lot during the summers, I grew up in Houston and it was miserably hot. But once school got going we would transition into fall football for school and our Ever Quest phase weened off. It is probably just a phase, just make sure that he gets involved in school activities since it is just now starting up. I think he will be fine and it was probably just a phase...don't sweat it man. 
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Posted: 8/28/2012 4:06:50 AM

Online RPG games can be addictive, I played them before.

Just give 4 hours per day on their game. As long as the addiction doesn't go over 8 hours a day, then that's a problem.

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Posted: 8/28/2012 4:57:57 AM
spill some water on the gaming system when he's not looking
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Posted: 8/28/2012 11:24:38 AM
Teach him to gamble.
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Posted: 8/28/2012 11:37:08 AM
Don't give him restrictions.  Just tell him if he does poorly in school, he won't be allowed to play.  If he does well in school and plays games who gives a darn?  Does he play sports?  Has he ever had a girlfriend?  If those answers are yes, then leave the damn kid alone.  He'll be fine.  Unless he starts listening to Marilyn Manson and wearing all black, let him do his thing. 
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