So my two year old stumbled into my 16 year old step daughters room and when I went to get him there was about 7 xanax bars laying on the floor. Obviously pissed I told her mom and expected her to take care of it. I took my son to his baseball game come home and was explained she was grounded for 4 days. Anyways I flipped the fuck out and was not acceptable to me considering this has been going on for at least 5 years with her and drugs. So I gave her the option give me the phone we pay for and you're grounded for a month or I call the cops. She said fuck you call the cops they aren't going to do anything. So after I called verizon to cut off her line I called them for the first time in my life and within 10 minutes they show up. She comes down with a smile and says she has to self medicate to sleep at night. They put her in cuffs, search her room and find 4 more pills and two smoked blunts. They take her to juvi and when she gets out 4 hours later she has 2 felony charges and thinks it's no big deal.
I was a bit surprised simple possession was an actual felony, but even more surprised that this wasn't a big deal to her.
What goes through parents mind letting this go on for so long? I admit fault here I should have taken care of it myself, but I couldn't deal with the arguments with her mother thinking I was too harsh or she's just being a kid and I gave up on it four years ago unless it affected my children. I refuse to allow my wife pay for a lawyer so she's going through public defender and I'm interested on seeing how this plays out. I was a little shocked she was out of juvi within 4 hours though. So maybe it isn't a big deal.
So my two year old stumbled into my 16 year old step daughters room and when I went to get him there was about 7 xanax bars laying on the floor. Obviously pissed I told her mom and expected her to take care of it. I took my son to his baseball game come home and was explained she was grounded for 4 days. Anyways I flipped the fuck out and was not acceptable to me considering this has been going on for at least 5 years with her and drugs. So I gave her the option give me the phone we pay for and you're grounded for a month or I call the cops. She said fuck you call the cops they aren't going to do anything. So after I called verizon to cut off her line I called them for the first time in my life and within 10 minutes they show up. She comes down with a smile and says she has to self medicate to sleep at night. They put her in cuffs, search her room and find 4 more pills and two smoked blunts. They take her to juvi and when she gets out 4 hours later she has 2 felony charges and thinks it's no big deal.
I was a bit surprised simple possession was an actual felony, but even more surprised that this wasn't a big deal to her.
What goes through parents mind letting this go on for so long? I admit fault here I should have taken care of it myself, but I couldn't deal with the arguments with her mother thinking I was too harsh or she's just being a kid and I gave up on it four years ago unless it affected my children. I refuse to allow my wife pay for a lawyer so she's going through public defender and I'm interested on seeing how this plays out. I was a little shocked she was out of juvi within 4 hours though. So maybe it isn't a big deal.
You are an idiot for calling the Police in to search your home. Do you realize that if your punk stepdaughter had been dealing, instead of using, a far more serious drug and quantity behind your back, the DEA can step in an seize your property? Goodbye house. You DO realize this? Apparently not.
You are an idiot for calling the Police in to search your home. Do you realize that if your punk stepdaughter had been dealing, instead of using, a far more serious drug and quantity behind your back, the DEA can step in an seize your property? Goodbye house. You DO realize this? Apparently not.
You are an idiot for calling the Police in to search your home. Do you realize that if your punk stepdaughter had been dealing, instead of using, a far more serious drug and quantity behind your back, the DEA can step in an seize your property? Goodbye house. You DO realize this? Apparently not.
That's a little far fetched and would have noticed the money if she was dealing. A lawyer would have taken care of it on my end and was more worried about getting the drugs and her out of the house before I did something stupid. At most it would have been a pain in the behind for me.
You are an idiot for calling the Police in to search your home. Do you realize that if your punk stepdaughter had been dealing, instead of using, a far more serious drug and quantity behind your back, the DEA can step in an seize your property? Goodbye house. You DO realize this? Apparently not.
That's a little far fetched and would have noticed the money if she was dealing. A lawyer would have taken care of it on my end and was more worried about getting the drugs and her out of the house before I did something stupid. At most it would have been a pain in the behind for me.
With it being in her room and that was the only place they had consent to search it's pretty obvious it would have not been mine or my wife's and my step daughter doesn't own the house. I would put it down like if I was renting my house out and the tenants were dealing drugs they couldn't seize my house.
With it being in her room and that was the only place they had consent to search it's pretty obvious it would have not been mine or my wife's and my step daughter doesn't own the house. I would put it down like if I was renting my house out and the tenants were dealing drugs they couldn't seize my house.
I think calling you an idiot is overkill but agree that calling the police was a mistake. A knee jerk reaction is rarely a good thing... Your step daughter just took a big hit in life by having a felony record... I understand you may have felt your back was against a wall, but now you have crossed lines that can not be uncrossed.
I wish you the best of luck in the future. I get the feeling you will need it very soon...
I think calling you an idiot is overkill but agree that calling the police was a mistake. A knee jerk reaction is rarely a good thing... Your step daughter just took a big hit in life by having a felony record... I understand you may have felt your back was against a wall, but now you have crossed lines that can not be uncrossed.
I wish you the best of luck in the future. I get the feeling you will need it very soon...
Wow. I hope you don't make any mistakes in the future. Kiss having a few beers and driving goodbye. She'll get you back one way or another. She might even say you molested her... That will be good for your image.
Wow. I hope you don't make any mistakes in the future. Kiss having a few beers and driving goodbye. She'll get you back one way or another. She might even say you molested her... That will be good for your image.
You are an idiot for calling the Police in to search your home. Do you realize that if your punk stepdaughter had been dealing, instead of using, a far more serious drug and quantity behind your back, the DEA can step in an seize your property? Goodbye house. You DO realize this? Apparently not.
For one thing, the thing wrong with the kid is that you are not her real dad. The same excuse is used all the time.
I doubt they can seize his house.
If it was his daughter he might have not called the cops.
She can still do some time when she goes to court.
You are an idiot for calling the Police in to search your home. Do you realize that if your punk stepdaughter had been dealing, instead of using, a far more serious drug and quantity behind your back, the DEA can step in an seize your property? Goodbye house. You DO realize this? Apparently not.
For one thing, the thing wrong with the kid is that you are not her real dad. The same excuse is used all the time.
I doubt they can seize his house.
If it was his daughter he might have not called the cops.
She can still do some time when she goes to court.
She's under 18 it goes away in two years. If she was over 18 I would have just simply kicked her out.
Yes Detox she made a mistake, but when it's been going on continuously and it put my two year old at risk something had to be done. I was hoping this would serve as a wake up call, but from the looks of it so far it isn't going to be.
She's under 18 it goes away in two years. If she was over 18 I would have just simply kicked her out.
Yes Detox she made a mistake, but when it's been going on continuously and it put my two year old at risk something had to be done. I was hoping this would serve as a wake up call, but from the looks of it so far it isn't going to be.
Calling the cops was, is and always will be a scumbag move
I agree, I just turned 34 yesterday and this is the first time I have ever called the police for anything. She was given the choice. It was probably a person move, but I'm not sure what else could have been done.
Calling the cops was, is and always will be a scumbag move
I agree, I just turned 34 yesterday and this is the first time I have ever called the police for anything. She was given the choice. It was probably a person move, but I'm not sure what else could have been done.
For one thing, the thing wrong with the kid is that you are not her real dad. The same excuse is used all the time.
I doubt they can seize his house.
If it was his daughter he might have not called the cops.
She can still do some time when she goes to court.
I think that is it. She has the same relationship with her real dad because she is uncontrollable.
I have a 9 year old daughter and except for the fact I would never let it get this far in the first place. So I won't have to face this situation in the future. My step daughter has been babied and spoiled her whole life. My children are rewarded for good behavior where she's been rewarded because her parents got divorced.
For one thing, the thing wrong with the kid is that you are not her real dad. The same excuse is used all the time.
I doubt they can seize his house.
If it was his daughter he might have not called the cops.
She can still do some time when she goes to court.
I think that is it. She has the same relationship with her real dad because she is uncontrollable.
I have a 9 year old daughter and except for the fact I would never let it get this far in the first place. So I won't have to face this situation in the future. My step daughter has been babied and spoiled her whole life. My children are rewarded for good behavior where she's been rewarded because her parents got divorced.
Does she have a father? What's her mother like, the apple usually doesn't fall far from the tree. She's been taking xanax since she was 11? Good luck man, you just created a nightmare for yourself. You might think you did the right thing, you'll soon realize that you didn't.
Does she have a father? What's her mother like, the apple usually doesn't fall far from the tree. She's been taking xanax since she was 11? Good luck man, you just created a nightmare for yourself. You might think you did the right thing, you'll soon realize that you didn't.
The girl probably just wants to be loved like the rest of us. It's obvious you don't love her judging by your quick trigger to get her two felonies. 16 year old girls are crazy, she's going to win. Not sure how, but she will. Keep us updated.
The girl probably just wants to be loved like the rest of us. It's obvious you don't love her judging by your quick trigger to get her two felonies. 16 year old girls are crazy, she's going to win. Not sure how, but she will. Keep us updated.
Does she have a father? What's her mother like, the apple usually doesn't fall far from the tree. She's been taking xanax since she was 11? Good luck man, you just created a nightmare for yourself. You might think you did the right thing, you'll soon realize that you didn't.
Well she started out with weed in the 6th grade the bars didnt come around to the 8th grade.
Her mother is the exact opposite of her. Her dad had problems back in the day I guess and he even took her for a while over the summer, but she made up some story about him beating her and called the cops and even the cops said they were self inflicted, but her mom felt bad for her and let her move back in this school year with all these conditions she signed off on, but within a month were just broken promises. Since then she has stolen her grandmas credit card and charged $600 worth of garbage on it, stole her ambien and sold it to her friends and all that was done was a slap on the wrist.
It was probably a d*ck move like I said, but I can't have the other children thinking they run the house and can do as they please. If she finds a way to f*ck me over some how then so be it, but I'm pretty clean.
I love my wife, but I'm realizing marrying a girl with kids was a huge mistake on my part. So run fellas if you're ever in the same position haha
Does she have a father? What's her mother like, the apple usually doesn't fall far from the tree. She's been taking xanax since she was 11? Good luck man, you just created a nightmare for yourself. You might think you did the right thing, you'll soon realize that you didn't.
Well she started out with weed in the 6th grade the bars didnt come around to the 8th grade.
Her mother is the exact opposite of her. Her dad had problems back in the day I guess and he even took her for a while over the summer, but she made up some story about him beating her and called the cops and even the cops said they were self inflicted, but her mom felt bad for her and let her move back in this school year with all these conditions she signed off on, but within a month were just broken promises. Since then she has stolen her grandmas credit card and charged $600 worth of garbage on it, stole her ambien and sold it to her friends and all that was done was a slap on the wrist.
It was probably a d*ck move like I said, but I can't have the other children thinking they run the house and can do as they please. If she finds a way to f*ck me over some how then so be it, but I'm pretty clean.
I love my wife, but I'm realizing marrying a girl with kids was a huge mistake on my part. So run fellas if you're ever in the same position haha
Atleast you realize it was kinda a messed up move. I agree it is different because it is not your kid and you can't discipline her the way you would like.
WTF is wrong with her mother. She doesn't do drugs, yet sees her kid puff blunts and snort Xanax bars and she is okay with this. The weed is not the problem at 16 (it is a problem if your smoking in 6th grade tho) These days, I would say a good 40-75% of kids smoke weed at age 16 depending where you live.
Snorting rx pills is a huge problem though, you need to have a serious talk with her mom I'm sure you tried but unless she wants her kid to darn her life up beyond repair, it gotta happen.
Your options seem to be limited, her mother is just as at fault if not more than the 16 year old. If I were you I'd apologize to the girl for calling the cops and tell her it was a heat of the moment thing or else this situation is a ticking time bomb, if it isn't already
Atleast you realize it was kinda a messed up move. I agree it is different because it is not your kid and you can't discipline her the way you would like.
WTF is wrong with her mother. She doesn't do drugs, yet sees her kid puff blunts and snort Xanax bars and she is okay with this. The weed is not the problem at 16 (it is a problem if your smoking in 6th grade tho) These days, I would say a good 40-75% of kids smoke weed at age 16 depending where you live.
Snorting rx pills is a huge problem though, you need to have a serious talk with her mom I'm sure you tried but unless she wants her kid to darn her life up beyond repair, it gotta happen.
Your options seem to be limited, her mother is just as at fault if not more than the 16 year old. If I were you I'd apologize to the girl for calling the cops and tell her it was a heat of the moment thing or else this situation is a ticking time bomb, if it isn't already
I have no problem with it. You can tell by her attitude that she didn't give a f*ck about you, your house, or that fact that your 2 year old could have gotten into her stash.
Maybe it will help her, hopefully it does.... and if it doesn't, the kid was going to end up in juvi/jail anyways so your actions really had no bearing on that. At least you tried.... Better than just ignoring it until she's someone elses problem like most people do. Accountability!!!!!!
I have no problem with it. You can tell by her attitude that she didn't give a f*ck about you, your house, or that fact that your 2 year old could have gotten into her stash.
Maybe it will help her, hopefully it does.... and if it doesn't, the kid was going to end up in juvi/jail anyways so your actions really had no bearing on that. At least you tried.... Better than just ignoring it until she's someone elses problem like most people do. Accountability!!!!!!
I think calling you an idiot is overkill but agree that calling the police was a mistake. A knee jerk reaction is rarely a good thing... Your step daughter just took a big hit in life by having a felony record... I understand you may have felt your back was against a wall, but now you have crossed lines that can not be uncrossed.
I wish you the best of luck in the future. I get the feeling you will need it very soon...
I think calling you an idiot is overkill but agree that calling the police was a mistake. A knee jerk reaction is rarely a good thing... Your step daughter just took a big hit in life by having a felony record... I understand you may have felt your back was against a wall, but now you have crossed lines that can not be uncrossed.
I wish you the best of luck in the future. I get the feeling you will need it very soon...
I applaud you for making the call. While I don't have a child doing the same, I know what it's like with the frustration, lack of trust, and endangerment of others...I can also tell that it's not a vindictive action over a "first time" thing.
What's silly, and really sad, is say she OD'd and died. It wouldn't make headlines...and if you tried venting here for support, you'd most likely be bashed for "Not stepping in sooner" or "Not doing enough" or "Not knowing your kids well enough". Tell me I'm lying....
I applaud you for making the call. While I don't have a child doing the same, I know what it's like with the frustration, lack of trust, and endangerment of others...I can also tell that it's not a vindictive action over a "first time" thing.
What's silly, and really sad, is say she OD'd and died. It wouldn't make headlines...and if you tried venting here for support, you'd most likely be bashed for "Not stepping in sooner" or "Not doing enough" or "Not knowing your kids well enough". Tell me I'm lying....
Or step daughter. It always amazes me that somebody would really think that could possibly happen. Maybe if she had 13 pounds of heroin in her closet lol.
Or step daughter. It always amazes me that somebody would really think that could possibly happen. Maybe if she had 13 pounds of heroin in her closet lol.
What should he have done? I don't understand what this solved. He's in the same spot now. If she says the right stuff to a dr she can get prescribed the same drugs. I guess that will make everyone happy when they're in a prescription bottle with her name on it instead of a baggie.
What should he have done? I don't understand what this solved. He's in the same spot now. If she says the right stuff to a dr she can get prescribed the same drugs. I guess that will make everyone happy when they're in a prescription bottle with her name on it instead of a baggie.
What should he have done? I don't understand what this solved. He's in the same spot now. If she says the right stuff to a dr she can get prescribed the same drugs. I guess that will make everyone happy when they're in a prescription bottle with her name on it instead of a baggie.
Not going to Quote all of Detox's posts but I do agree with them... Good points...
What should he have done? I don't understand what this solved. He's in the same spot now. If she says the right stuff to a dr she can get prescribed the same drugs. I guess that will make everyone happy when they're in a prescription bottle with her name on it instead of a baggie.
Not going to Quote all of Detox's posts but I do agree with them... Good points...
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