Me and the mrs are kinda at a crossroads. I love her to death and have been with her for years. I'm 28 and she is 31 so a little bit of a rarity there I guess. We have recently been talking about kids on a more serious level and she seems pretty adamant on not having them.
Her reasons are... Don't want to lose her tight body (she is a gym rat), Don't want the responsibility (She has been a teacher for 8 years and is amazing with my nieces and nephews but says shes cares all day for them already), Wants to travel, Would rather dogs instead (boxers), Thinks women only have babies for attention or to show something needs them and finally... Thinks men just want them to play with or pro create and do the "normal thing" and is afraid of them not taking care of them or doing their part.
Now I can agree with a few things in her list but am still 50-50 on kids. This can, and will be, our only issue moving forward as she is hot, great job, loves the jays and bruins with me, rides spotsbikes (gsxr-600), christian background, great body and gym rat, no drama, no fights, smart, so caring and thoughtful and treats me incredibly well (dinners, baking, nights out with guys, etc), decent family background.
So gentlemen I wanna hear from those that have kids and those that don't. I know some things such as we would be incredibly well off, travel, do fun things, etc. But I would also lose out on creating a family and then the love of having children around. Tough call eh? Unfortunatly it may come to a point I have to leave if I really want kids. Any suggestions or thoughts and comments would be amazing.
On a sidenote, I do BIG BROTHERS now so take care of a child once a week for four hours but might be stuck to that, as adoption or fostering, doesn't seem to be an option with her.
Me and the mrs are kinda at a crossroads. I love her to death and have been with her for years. I'm 28 and she is 31 so a little bit of a rarity there I guess. We have recently been talking about kids on a more serious level and she seems pretty adamant on not having them.
Her reasons are... Don't want to lose her tight body (she is a gym rat), Don't want the responsibility (She has been a teacher for 8 years and is amazing with my nieces and nephews but says shes cares all day for them already), Wants to travel, Would rather dogs instead (boxers), Thinks women only have babies for attention or to show something needs them and finally... Thinks men just want them to play with or pro create and do the "normal thing" and is afraid of them not taking care of them or doing their part.
Now I can agree with a few things in her list but am still 50-50 on kids. This can, and will be, our only issue moving forward as she is hot, great job, loves the jays and bruins with me, rides spotsbikes (gsxr-600), christian background, great body and gym rat, no drama, no fights, smart, so caring and thoughtful and treats me incredibly well (dinners, baking, nights out with guys, etc), decent family background.
So gentlemen I wanna hear from those that have kids and those that don't. I know some things such as we would be incredibly well off, travel, do fun things, etc. But I would also lose out on creating a family and then the love of having children around. Tough call eh? Unfortunatly it may come to a point I have to leave if I really want kids. Any suggestions or thoughts and comments would be amazing.
On a sidenote, I do BIG BROTHERS now so take care of a child once a week for four hours but might be stuck to that, as adoption or fostering, doesn't seem to be an option with her.
Take those things, imagine enjoying/experiencing those things to the absolute maximum, imagine realizing the epitome of those things. And I will tell you that my son is two billion times more important, rewarding, and worth it than any of it.
Take those things, imagine enjoying/experiencing those things to the absolute maximum, imagine realizing the epitome of those things. And I will tell you that my son is two billion times more important, rewarding, and worth it than any of it.
Take those things, imagine enjoying/experiencing those things to the absolute maximum, imagine realizing the epitome of those things. And I will tell you that my son is two billion times more important, rewarding, and worth it than any of it.
Yeah, I think that the problem is as well is you don't know until you have children how precious they are. So to her, these thinks seem great now. Thanks for the input
Take those things, imagine enjoying/experiencing those things to the absolute maximum, imagine realizing the epitome of those things. And I will tell you that my son is two billion times more important, rewarding, and worth it than any of it.
Yeah, I think that the problem is as well is you don't know until you have children how precious they are. So to her, these thinks seem great now. Thanks for the input
Thanks dude, my heart tells me to stay with her because she is an incredible girl and I hit the lotto. My friends would kill me if I dropped her. A couple have always compared her to what Ben affleck says about Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting and having the winning ticket (the smarts) and not cashing it in.
I hope this doesn't become an issue down the road. The worst would be if I become resentful or something which is stupid cause I would have made the choice to stay with her but I'm sure you know what I mean. It would be one of those nuclear bombs thrown out in an argument or fight down the road. lol
Thanks dude, my heart tells me to stay with her because she is an incredible girl and I hit the lotto. My friends would kill me if I dropped her. A couple have always compared her to what Ben affleck says about Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting and having the winning ticket (the smarts) and not cashing it in.
I hope this doesn't become an issue down the road. The worst would be if I become resentful or something which is stupid cause I would have made the choice to stay with her but I'm sure you know what I mean. It would be one of those nuclear bombs thrown out in an argument or fight down the road. lol
One of wifey's BFF's went through this a few years back for the exact same reasons. They have been fine together, got to do some traveling, they each drive new cars, a lot of things you can do without the responsibility and monetary expense of parenthood. To some it might sound like selfish reasons, but fuck'em, it's YOUR life. That said, I will tell you our son has been the greatest thing in my marriage and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
One of wifey's BFF's went through this a few years back for the exact same reasons. They have been fine together, got to do some traveling, they each drive new cars, a lot of things you can do without the responsibility and monetary expense of parenthood. To some it might sound like selfish reasons, but fuck'em, it's YOUR life. That said, I will tell you our son has been the greatest thing in my marriage and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
One of wifey's BFF's went through this a few years back for the exact same reasons. They have been fine together, got to do some traveling, they each drive new cars, a lot of things you can do without the responsibility and monetary expense of parenthood. To some it might sound like selfish reasons, but fuck'em, it's YOUR life. That said, I will tell you our son has been the greatest thing in my marriage and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
Cool Goose! Sounds nice having those things but I'm glad it's been THAT good having a son. That was kinda my thinking. I kinda hope as well maybe I have a few years left where she may change her mind and I get the best of both worlds lol.
One of wifey's BFF's went through this a few years back for the exact same reasons. They have been fine together, got to do some traveling, they each drive new cars, a lot of things you can do without the responsibility and monetary expense of parenthood. To some it might sound like selfish reasons, but fuck'em, it's YOUR life. That said, I will tell you our son has been the greatest thing in my marriage and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
Cool Goose! Sounds nice having those things but I'm glad it's been THAT good having a son. That was kinda my thinking. I kinda hope as well maybe I have a few years left where she may change her mind and I get the best of both worlds lol.
i'm the worst with kids. i don't like any of them, never wanted anything to do with them. i now have two kids, both girls and i was never around young girls as a kid. no sisters, no female cousins, no young girls on my street. that being said, having kids is the best thing anyone can do, in my opinion. i'd rather hang out with my kids than do just about anything.
i don't understand why anyone would get married unless you have kids. not that i don't love my wife, i do. marriage doesn;t seem to be a natural state except that it provides stability for kids.
now, to your wife's concerns.
don't want to lose her tight body- first, at her age, she doesn't have to. if she eats right and exercises, she'll get back to normal, especially if she breastfeeds. secondly, she's going to lose it anyway once she gets older. not a good reason not to have kids. finally, this concern is worthless without pictures.
wants to travel- this is the most valid in my opinion. i've traveled a lot and that was pretty much shut down once we had kids. i miss traveling. however, if you live near your or her parents, they can take the kid(s) and you can still travel pretty quickly after the kid is born. secondly, you have your whole life to travel but a certain window to have kids.
would rather have dogs- no reason you can't have both. my kids love our dog and our dog loves out kids. it is an extra pain in the ass though.
i really don't understand the last two. it's not a fuckin mercedes. assuming you're both mature enough to have kids, and if i was, most people are, and can afford to take care of them, i haven't heard a good argument not to do it.
other than that, i still don't like other kids and i'm still pro abortion.
i'm the worst with kids. i don't like any of them, never wanted anything to do with them. i now have two kids, both girls and i was never around young girls as a kid. no sisters, no female cousins, no young girls on my street. that being said, having kids is the best thing anyone can do, in my opinion. i'd rather hang out with my kids than do just about anything.
i don't understand why anyone would get married unless you have kids. not that i don't love my wife, i do. marriage doesn;t seem to be a natural state except that it provides stability for kids.
now, to your wife's concerns.
don't want to lose her tight body- first, at her age, she doesn't have to. if she eats right and exercises, she'll get back to normal, especially if she breastfeeds. secondly, she's going to lose it anyway once she gets older. not a good reason not to have kids. finally, this concern is worthless without pictures.
wants to travel- this is the most valid in my opinion. i've traveled a lot and that was pretty much shut down once we had kids. i miss traveling. however, if you live near your or her parents, they can take the kid(s) and you can still travel pretty quickly after the kid is born. secondly, you have your whole life to travel but a certain window to have kids.
would rather have dogs- no reason you can't have both. my kids love our dog and our dog loves out kids. it is an extra pain in the ass though.
i really don't understand the last two. it's not a fuckin mercedes. assuming you're both mature enough to have kids, and if i was, most people are, and can afford to take care of them, i haven't heard a good argument not to do it.
other than that, i still don't like other kids and i'm still pro abortion.
i'm the worst with kids. i don't like any of them, never wanted anything to do with them. i now have two kids, both girls and i was never around young girls as a kid. no sisters, no female cousins, no young girls on my street. that being said, having kids is the best thing anyone can do, in my opinion. i'd rather hang out with my kids than do just about anything.
i don't understand why anyone would get married unless you have kids. not that i don't love my wife, i do. marriage doesn;t seem to be a natural state except that it provides stability for kids.
now, to your wife's concerns.
don't want to lose her tight body- first, at her age, she doesn't have to. if she eats right and exercises, she'll get back to normal, especially if she breastfeeds. secondly, she's going to lose it anyway once she gets older. not a good reason not to have kids. finally, this concern is worthless without pictures.
wants to travel- this is the most valid in my opinion. i've traveled a lot and that was pretty much shut down once we had kids. i miss traveling. however, if you live near your or her parents, they can take the kid(s) and you can still travel pretty quickly after the kid is born. secondly, you have your whole life to travel but a certain window to have kids.
would rather have dogs- no reason you can't have both. my kids love our dog and our dog loves out kids. it is an extra pain in the ass though.
i really don't understand the last two. it's not a fuckin mercedes. assuming you're both mature enough to have kids, and if i was, most people are, and can afford to take care of them, i haven't heard a good argument not to do it.
other than that, i still don't like other kids and i'm still pro abortion.
Nice club dirt, great points in there. To be honest and while delving deeper into why she doesn't want them (I'm pretty analytical and really go deep) I think it could be because she wasn't raised in a great home environment. Her parents loved her very much but were crazy strict and regret raising her that way. She was raised to look out for herself and take care of the house from a very early age. Her brothers were 10 and 12 years older and had moved out. Her parents (both principals) worked in other communities and left her to basically take care of the house and cook dinners and clean. Come 18 she left from the country in Ontario to Van city to go the UBC for teaching and english.
i'm the worst with kids. i don't like any of them, never wanted anything to do with them. i now have two kids, both girls and i was never around young girls as a kid. no sisters, no female cousins, no young girls on my street. that being said, having kids is the best thing anyone can do, in my opinion. i'd rather hang out with my kids than do just about anything.
i don't understand why anyone would get married unless you have kids. not that i don't love my wife, i do. marriage doesn;t seem to be a natural state except that it provides stability for kids.
now, to your wife's concerns.
don't want to lose her tight body- first, at her age, she doesn't have to. if she eats right and exercises, she'll get back to normal, especially if she breastfeeds. secondly, she's going to lose it anyway once she gets older. not a good reason not to have kids. finally, this concern is worthless without pictures.
wants to travel- this is the most valid in my opinion. i've traveled a lot and that was pretty much shut down once we had kids. i miss traveling. however, if you live near your or her parents, they can take the kid(s) and you can still travel pretty quickly after the kid is born. secondly, you have your whole life to travel but a certain window to have kids.
would rather have dogs- no reason you can't have both. my kids love our dog and our dog loves out kids. it is an extra pain in the ass though.
i really don't understand the last two. it's not a fuckin mercedes. assuming you're both mature enough to have kids, and if i was, most people are, and can afford to take care of them, i haven't heard a good argument not to do it.
other than that, i still don't like other kids and i'm still pro abortion.
Nice club dirt, great points in there. To be honest and while delving deeper into why she doesn't want them (I'm pretty analytical and really go deep) I think it could be because she wasn't raised in a great home environment. Her parents loved her very much but were crazy strict and regret raising her that way. She was raised to look out for herself and take care of the house from a very early age. Her brothers were 10 and 12 years older and had moved out. Her parents (both principals) worked in other communities and left her to basically take care of the house and cook dinners and clean. Come 18 she left from the country in Ontario to Van city to go the UBC for teaching and english.
by the way, i'm surprised you didn't have this conversation before getting married. or maybe you did, but things have changed? if people aren't aligned in their desire to grow a family, they shouldn't get married. I'm not accusing you of anything, just stating my opinion on that matter. my wife and I talked about kids before I proposed.
by the way, i'm surprised you didn't have this conversation before getting married. or maybe you did, but things have changed? if people aren't aligned in their desire to grow a family, they shouldn't get married. I'm not accusing you of anything, just stating my opinion on that matter. my wife and I talked about kids before I proposed.
Nice club dirt, great points in there. To be honest and while delving deeper into why she doesn't want them (I'm pretty analytical and really go deep) I think it could be because she wasn't raised in a great home environment. Her parents loved her very much but were crazy strict and regret raising her that way. She was raised to look out for herself and take care of the house from a very early age. Her brothers were 10 and 12 years older and had moved out. Her parents (both principals) worked in other communities and left her to basically take care of the house and cook dinners and clean. Come 18 she left from the country in Ontario to Van city to go the UBC for teaching and english.
i understand that. but she can be whatever kind of parent she wants. my parents were pretty strict. my dad used to beat the shit out of us with the belt or whatever when we fucked up. i would never consider doing that. it's what you make it.
Nice club dirt, great points in there. To be honest and while delving deeper into why she doesn't want them (I'm pretty analytical and really go deep) I think it could be because she wasn't raised in a great home environment. Her parents loved her very much but were crazy strict and regret raising her that way. She was raised to look out for herself and take care of the house from a very early age. Her brothers were 10 and 12 years older and had moved out. Her parents (both principals) worked in other communities and left her to basically take care of the house and cook dinners and clean. Come 18 she left from the country in Ontario to Van city to go the UBC for teaching and english.
i understand that. but she can be whatever kind of parent she wants. my parents were pretty strict. my dad used to beat the shit out of us with the belt or whatever when we fucked up. i would never consider doing that. it's what you make it.
Gunners-Not married bud. I refer to her as mrs or the wife since we have been together many years. Sry for any confusion. This girl is practically my wife and will be together forever unless something crazy happens.
Gunners-Not married bud. I refer to her as mrs or the wife since we have been together many years. Sry for any confusion. This girl is practically my wife and will be together forever unless something crazy happens.
i understand that. but she can be whatever kind of parent she wants. my parents were pretty strict. my dad used to beat the shit out of us with the belt or whatever when we fucked up. i would never consider doing that. it's what you make it.
Exactly, I stress to her as well that things are different with different people. I think she just had a vision of two parents (hers) that were frustrated with their boys and we strict with her and perhaps regretted having children.
i understand that. but she can be whatever kind of parent she wants. my parents were pretty strict. my dad used to beat the shit out of us with the belt or whatever when we fucked up. i would never consider doing that. it's what you make it.
Exactly, I stress to her as well that things are different with different people. I think she just had a vision of two parents (hers) that were frustrated with their boys and we strict with her and perhaps regretted having children.
If youre financially ready, kids are the way to go
She admits this. That's no secret or debate. She knows doing this is selfish. On the other hand I've never met someone that gives as much as she does. She must do 20-30 hours a week helping people out with free tutoring, soup kitchen, extra school stuff, etc.
If youre financially ready, kids are the way to go
She admits this. That's no secret or debate. She knows doing this is selfish. On the other hand I've never met someone that gives as much as she does. She must do 20-30 hours a week helping people out with free tutoring, soup kitchen, extra school stuff, etc.
I have three kids. Two boys and a little girl. I could not imagine life without them. The best part of my day is when I wake up and get hugs from them, telling me they love me and wishing me to have a good day. The other best part is when I get home from work they are there to give me a hug and ask me about my day. Yes I know dogs are the same way just not as verbal about their feelings and I assure you dogs are a lot less responsibility and expense. That being said, it is a blast watching your children grow up and experience your own childhood all over again. To see things from their eyes really puts your own principals, throughts and feelings in perspective. Children are the truth and they know more than you think. Their perceptions are very innocent but honest. What I love more than anything else is to take a child to a ballpark, new restraunt, new city, skyscrapper, recently we went on a Disney cruise and just see their face light up with every new experience. As a parent you learn to live a little through your kids and their wishes. Of course I get a little carried away sometimes but such is life.
Whatever you decide to do it should be what you want and not what your friends what for you or your girlfriend wants. I assure you that if your relationship is serious and committed and you explain to her that you really want children she will listen. Of course you could always adopt if she really does not want to go through pregnancy.
On a sidenote pregnancy is hard for some. My wife has had three births with one by c-section and that is tough. She now has problems regulating her thyrod as a result. Adding children to the mix can change her body, her values, her whole outlook on life. Obviously it will also change your relationship. So be careful what you ask for too. But like I said I have tons of positives about my life and at the top of the list are my three children. There truely is nothing I care more about (including myself and my wife which is harsh I know but I am being honest) that I care more about than them. BOL on whatever you decide.
I have three kids. Two boys and a little girl. I could not imagine life without them. The best part of my day is when I wake up and get hugs from them, telling me they love me and wishing me to have a good day. The other best part is when I get home from work they are there to give me a hug and ask me about my day. Yes I know dogs are the same way just not as verbal about their feelings and I assure you dogs are a lot less responsibility and expense. That being said, it is a blast watching your children grow up and experience your own childhood all over again. To see things from their eyes really puts your own principals, throughts and feelings in perspective. Children are the truth and they know more than you think. Their perceptions are very innocent but honest. What I love more than anything else is to take a child to a ballpark, new restraunt, new city, skyscrapper, recently we went on a Disney cruise and just see their face light up with every new experience. As a parent you learn to live a little through your kids and their wishes. Of course I get a little carried away sometimes but such is life.
Whatever you decide to do it should be what you want and not what your friends what for you or your girlfriend wants. I assure you that if your relationship is serious and committed and you explain to her that you really want children she will listen. Of course you could always adopt if she really does not want to go through pregnancy.
On a sidenote pregnancy is hard for some. My wife has had three births with one by c-section and that is tough. She now has problems regulating her thyrod as a result. Adding children to the mix can change her body, her values, her whole outlook on life. Obviously it will also change your relationship. So be careful what you ask for too. But like I said I have tons of positives about my life and at the top of the list are my three children. There truely is nothing I care more about (including myself and my wife which is harsh I know but I am being honest) that I care more about than them. BOL on whatever you decide.
I have three kids. Two boys and a little girl. I could not imagine life without them. The best part of my day is when I wake up and get hugs from them, telling me they love me and wishing me to have a good day. The other best part is when I get home from work they are there to give me a hug and ask me about my day. Yes I know dogs are the same way just not as verbal about their feelings and I assure you dogs are a lot less responsibility and expense. That being said, it is a blast watching your children grow up and experience your own childhood all over again. To see things from their eyes really puts your own principals, throughts and feelings in perspective. Children are the truth and they know more than you think. Their perceptions are very innocent but honest. What I love more than anything else is to take a child to a ballpark, new restraunt, new city, skyscrapper, recently we went on a Disney cruise and just see their face light up with every new experience. As a parent you learn to live a little through your kids and their wishes. Of course I get a little carried away sometimes but such is life.
Whatever you decide to do it should be what you want and not what your friends what for you or your girlfriend wants. I assure you that if your relationship is serious and committed and you explain to her that you really want children she will listen. Of course you could always adopt if she really does not want to go through pregnancy.
On a sidenote pregnancy is hard for some. My wife has had three births with one by c-section and that is tough. She now has problems regulating her thyrod as a result. Adding children to the mix can change her body, her values, her whole outlook on life. Obviously it will also change your relationship. So be careful what you ask for too. But like I said I have tons of positives about my life and at the top of the list are my three children. There truely is nothing I care more about (including myself and my wife which is harsh I know but I am being honest) that I care more about than them. BOL on whatever you decide.
Thanks a lot for the time and response! Sounds great!
I have three kids. Two boys and a little girl. I could not imagine life without them. The best part of my day is when I wake up and get hugs from them, telling me they love me and wishing me to have a good day. The other best part is when I get home from work they are there to give me a hug and ask me about my day. Yes I know dogs are the same way just not as verbal about their feelings and I assure you dogs are a lot less responsibility and expense. That being said, it is a blast watching your children grow up and experience your own childhood all over again. To see things from their eyes really puts your own principals, throughts and feelings in perspective. Children are the truth and they know more than you think. Their perceptions are very innocent but honest. What I love more than anything else is to take a child to a ballpark, new restraunt, new city, skyscrapper, recently we went on a Disney cruise and just see their face light up with every new experience. As a parent you learn to live a little through your kids and their wishes. Of course I get a little carried away sometimes but such is life.
Whatever you decide to do it should be what you want and not what your friends what for you or your girlfriend wants. I assure you that if your relationship is serious and committed and you explain to her that you really want children she will listen. Of course you could always adopt if she really does not want to go through pregnancy.
On a sidenote pregnancy is hard for some. My wife has had three births with one by c-section and that is tough. She now has problems regulating her thyrod as a result. Adding children to the mix can change her body, her values, her whole outlook on life. Obviously it will also change your relationship. So be careful what you ask for too. But like I said I have tons of positives about my life and at the top of the list are my three children. There truely is nothing I care more about (including myself and my wife which is harsh I know but I am being honest) that I care more about than them. BOL on whatever you decide.
Thanks a lot for the time and response! Sounds great!
Minion, I am seeing a common theme here and I am no different.... except - my kid was an unexpected surprise.
My wife and I were torn on whether or not to have children. We're both very busy professionals and weren't sure how we'd pull it off.
But, one night we made a life changing mistake and my son was accidentally conceived.
The mistake we made that night was the greatest gift I've ever received. My son has only been around for 20 months, but I can't imagine life without him. I never realized it was possible to love something/someone as much as I love him.
He is not the burden we were worried a child might be. In fact, he inspires me to work harder and be a better person than I was before. It's tough to put into words, but being a parent changes your perspective on life. It's an incredible feeling.
Have kids Minion... you will not regret it. It'll change your life - and only for the better. It sounds like you really love your lady and I would work on having kids with her. My wife wasn't sure either - and she couldn't be happier being a Mom.
And for what it's worth - she got her body back in 6 months. She had to go to the gym and work at it, but she looks as good as ever.
Minion, I am seeing a common theme here and I am no different.... except - my kid was an unexpected surprise.
My wife and I were torn on whether or not to have children. We're both very busy professionals and weren't sure how we'd pull it off.
But, one night we made a life changing mistake and my son was accidentally conceived.
The mistake we made that night was the greatest gift I've ever received. My son has only been around for 20 months, but I can't imagine life without him. I never realized it was possible to love something/someone as much as I love him.
He is not the burden we were worried a child might be. In fact, he inspires me to work harder and be a better person than I was before. It's tough to put into words, but being a parent changes your perspective on life. It's an incredible feeling.
Have kids Minion... you will not regret it. It'll change your life - and only for the better. It sounds like you really love your lady and I would work on having kids with her. My wife wasn't sure either - and she couldn't be happier being a Mom.
And for what it's worth - she got her body back in 6 months. She had to go to the gym and work at it, but she looks as good as ever.
Take those things, imagine enjoying/experiencing those things to the absolute maximum, imagine realizing the epitome of those things. And I will tell you that my son is two billion times more important, rewarding, and worth it than any of it.
my son turns 3 in March and our babygirl is due in March.
Gonna have our hands in full - but it's well, well, worth it.
Take those things, imagine enjoying/experiencing those things to the absolute maximum, imagine realizing the epitome of those things. And I will tell you that my son is two billion times more important, rewarding, and worth it than any of it.
my son turns 3 in March and our babygirl is due in March.
Gonna have our hands in full - but it's well, well, worth it.
I have three kids. Two boys and a little girl. I could not imagine life without them. The best part of my day is when I wake up and get hugs from them, telling me they love me and wishing me to have a good day. The other best part is when I get home from work they are there to give me a hug and ask me about my day. Yes I know dogs are the same way just not as verbal about their feelings and I assure you dogs are a lot less responsibility and expense. That being said, it is a blast watching your children grow up and experience your own childhood all over again. To see things from their eyes really puts your own principals, throughts and feelings in perspective. Children are the truth and they know more than you think. Their perceptions are very innocent but honest. What I love more than anything else is to take a child to a ballpark, new restraunt, new city, skyscrapper, recently we went on a Disney cruise and just see their face light up with every new experience. As a parent you learn to live a little through your kids and their wishes. Of course I get a little carried away sometimes but such is life.
Whatever you decide to do it should be what you want and not what your friends what for you or your girlfriend wants. I assure you that if your relationship is serious and committed and you explain to her that you really want children she will listen. Of course you could always adopt if she really does not want to go through pregnancy.
On a sidenote pregnancy is hard for some. My wife has had three births with one by c-section and that is tough. She now has problems regulating her thyrod as a result. Adding children to the mix can change her body, her values, her whole outlook on life. Obviously it will also change your relationship. So be careful what you ask for too. But like I said I have tons of positives about my life and at the top of the list are my three children. There truely is nothing I care more about (including myself and my wife which is harsh I know but I am being honest) that I care more about than them. BOL on whatever you decide.
I have three kids. Two boys and a little girl. I could not imagine life without them. The best part of my day is when I wake up and get hugs from them, telling me they love me and wishing me to have a good day. The other best part is when I get home from work they are there to give me a hug and ask me about my day. Yes I know dogs are the same way just not as verbal about their feelings and I assure you dogs are a lot less responsibility and expense. That being said, it is a blast watching your children grow up and experience your own childhood all over again. To see things from their eyes really puts your own principals, throughts and feelings in perspective. Children are the truth and they know more than you think. Their perceptions are very innocent but honest. What I love more than anything else is to take a child to a ballpark, new restraunt, new city, skyscrapper, recently we went on a Disney cruise and just see their face light up with every new experience. As a parent you learn to live a little through your kids and their wishes. Of course I get a little carried away sometimes but such is life.
Whatever you decide to do it should be what you want and not what your friends what for you or your girlfriend wants. I assure you that if your relationship is serious and committed and you explain to her that you really want children she will listen. Of course you could always adopt if she really does not want to go through pregnancy.
On a sidenote pregnancy is hard for some. My wife has had three births with one by c-section and that is tough. She now has problems regulating her thyrod as a result. Adding children to the mix can change her body, her values, her whole outlook on life. Obviously it will also change your relationship. So be careful what you ask for too. But like I said I have tons of positives about my life and at the top of the list are my three children. There truely is nothing I care more about (including myself and my wife which is harsh I know but I am being honest) that I care more about than them. BOL on whatever you decide.
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