Taking a 365 day break from all forms of gambling...

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Posted: 11/1/2011 11:21:38 AM
QUOTE Originally Posted by Colts03:

just another reason to not get married.  thanks kap 


ha ha.

i feel ya..... in some ways i think it would be great to be married...but honestly.......gambling when i want and to do whatever the darn i want to do whenever is much more appealing. 

that's just me.
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Posted: 11/1/2011 11:21:59 AM
but nevertheless, great job on your addiction control
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Posted: 11/1/2011 11:27:01 AM
For a woman to live with a gambler it has to be daunting, and unless you want the same argument over and over you're better off rebuilding on a foundation of trust.  Got too prioritize what's right for your life, cheers for being adult.
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Posted: 11/1/2011 11:34:39 AM
QUOTE Originally Posted by HutchEmAll:

I don't think you'd like going to a meeting.  All it would be is a bunch of people telling stories how they ruined their family....lost their job......went into financial ruin, etc.  Pity party.  You've already (at least so far) demonstrated that you can control your own situation. 

I'm guessing you would walk away thinking you were the highest functioning individual in the room and kind of resenting the whole deal.

I don't see how they would teach you anything you don't already know. 

Congrats on a good start, by the way. 




Thanks Hutch

Think you are right about GA. I know the nature of addiction, understand the psychological aspects to it, etc. etc.. I don't think I'd be learning anything new. My problem is bankroll management, and part of what I am trying to do by tracking plays without actually betting is to step out at the end of the year and look at whether or not I am up or down for the entire year. Assuming I am up, that should be good proof that chasing is not the correct strategy.
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Posted: 11/1/2011 11:35:42 AM
QUOTE Originally Posted by JaHovaWitness:

Whats the odds on you not making it? And if so, u should think about betting against it and then if you go back at least you have some money to work with.




I'd say on the day I posted it that the odds were probably:

Will make it 365: +220
Won't make it 365: -245

That's just based on past behavior... but here we are, more than 25% of the way through and the positive juice is still very alive
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Posted: 11/1/2011 11:36:59 AM
QUOTE Originally Posted by Nilshu:

Glad to see things are going well Kapono. That honesty you have with your wife is a key component to a succesful marriage. It seems like you are making a great effort in keeping that bond strong.  

Goodluck and congratulations on little Kapono.

All the best,



Thanks Nilshu, honesty is the best policy even though it can ruffle feathers.
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Posted: 11/1/2011 11:42:56 AM
Best of luck Kapono .I was/am in the same boat .I have given  it up and have been married for over 4 years.My son was born last year and my gambling debts just would never go down.I like yourself could not handle my bankroll mgmt and would just lose thousands and thousnds PER WEEK.Had to get street loans off of people I know in Philly and also tapped out my CCards with this garbage.Its a game taht you can't win at longterm and I know that .Its nice to pick up some extra cash but at the sametime I realize losing thousands and winning a quarter of what I lose isn't going to work out.Keeping it from my wife was/is a big task too as I am sure she don't want to hear me crying over gambling debts. So I have only recently stopped from August but so far so good.BOL to you!
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Posted: 11/1/2011 11:43:32 AM
QUOTE Originally Posted by Longhorn007:



ha ha.

i feel ya..... in some ways i think it would be great to be married...but honestly.......gambling when i want and to do whatever the darn i want to do whenever is much more appealing. 

that's just me.


It's a trade-off, no doubt Longhorn. You definitely do not have as much individual or personal freedom, but on the flip side, you always got someone there to support you or take care of you if things go south.


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Posted: 11/1/2011 11:45:16 AM
QUOTE Originally Posted by jsab:

Best of luck Kapono .I was/am in the same boat .I have given  it up and have been married for over 4 years.My son was born last year and my gambling debts just would never go down.I like yourself could not handle my bankroll mgmt and would just lose thousands and thousnds PER WEEK.Had to get street loans off of people I know in Philly and also tapped out my CCards with this garbage.Its a game taht you can't win at longterm and I know that .Its nice to pick up some extra cash but at the sametime I realize losing thousands and winning a quarter of what I lose isn't going to work out.Keeping it from my wife was/is a big task too as I am sure she don't want to hear me crying over gambling debts. So I have only recently stopped from August but so far so good.BOL to you!


I think you can win longterm, the difficult part is the discipline aspect. Luckily I never had to take out loans from shady characters, but I could easily see how things could get that way with chasing.

Good to know that there are others out there in the same situation though... lets me know I'm not the only one with these issues.
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Posted: 11/1/2011 11:51:23 AM
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Originally Posted by kaponofor3:



I think you can win longterm, the difficult part is the discipline aspect. Luckily I never had to take out loans from shady characters, but I could easily see how things could get that way with chasing.

Good to know that there are others out there in the same situation though... lets me know I'm not the only one with these issues.

The dudes that gave me those loans are actually friends of mine taht charged me minimum interest which I was/am grateful too as I am still paying them off. My alternative was tapping my mutual fund and then my wife would have noticed and caused further problems. Yes I hate paying these weekly payments but man I feel so much better not losing another penny betting on games.I disagree with you in that I don't think you can win longterm as I don't know anyone that has or ha sthe discipline to make a play on a random basis and then take a knee.

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Posted: 11/1/2011 12:08:44 PM
I never had an addiction to it, but I realized with the juice it's tough to win. And bad beats just drove me crazy.

So now I just play contests. I think buy-in contests may have a good future.

I play the Carib Contest. $200 buy-in for a season's worth of action. $65,000 first prize. And you can win $5K weekly.

And another $50 buy-in contest on a Forum that has a $1,000 first prize.

And I play some free contests with decent prizes.

I do not miss the action of single games at all.

I had SD/KC over last night, and it should have gone over, but 7 FGs and a bad call here and there sunk it. I was pissed, but it's just one game in a contest. Move on to next week's slate of games. No chasing.

GL
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Posted: 11/1/2011 12:37:48 PM
QUOTE Originally Posted by Barnstorm:

I never had an addiction to it, but I realized with the juice it's tough to win. And bad beats just drove me crazy.

So now I just play contests. I think buy-in contests may have a good future.

I play the Carib Contest. $200 buy-in for a season's worth of action. $65,000 first prize. And you can win $5K weekly.

And another $50 buy-in contest on a Forum that has a $1,000 first prize.

And I play some free contests with decent prizes.

I do not miss the action of single games at all.

I had SD/KC over last night, and it should have gone over, but 7 FGs and a bad call here and there sunk it. I was pissed, but it's just one game in a contest. Move on to next week's slate of games. No chasing.

GL
Money management  is tough for everyone, even non gamblers. Just you  look at was has happened with housing markets, people went over their heads, credit card debt, etc.

I've done the same thing with the carib contest, a bit over $10 a week and you get 10 games a week full of action,  an a idea of how skilled you are. Just unfortunate that the leaders are somehow hitting like 65% 
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