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#1 Posted: 1/10/2012 12:45:13 AM 
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#2 Posted: 1/10/2012 12:54:45 AM  |
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#3 Posted: 1/10/2012 12:59:29 AM
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#4 Posted: 1/10/2012 1:21:27 AM Just take it one day at a time and focus on the positives for now. Looking too far ahead is catastrophic.
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#6 Posted: 1/10/2012 7:26:29 AM good luck, nancy |
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#7 Posted: 1/10/2012 8:24:15 AM 
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#8 Posted: 1/10/2012 12:05:46 PM QUOTE Originally Posted by Kazual12:
Towards her yes, yourself no. If she believes your the one and you don't see it being long term your just dragging her along. As far as leaving your job goes, I'd start looking around and have another lined up before I left |
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#9 Posted: 1/10/2012 12:18:28 PM QUOTE Originally Posted by Kazual12:
Been with this girl for about a year. Things have been somewhat hot and cold. I really like her and she is sweet but i wonder about long term compatibility. She is moody but what woman isn't but i don't feel like she trusts me overall.Her parents are divorce mother cheated on her father and I get that projected onto me. I am thinking about calling it off because I am not feeling that I am in love thing. Feeling kind of ridiculous bringing this to the forum but need some advice. I also have a job with decent money and health care and benefits but not happy there. It would be difficult to leave this job because of money issues etc... I don't know leaving this job could be the best risk I have ever taken and moving on from this relationship could lead to me finding a better one. Am i just being selfish? Anyone been in a spot like this.
Do you think that will ever change?
If you answered yes, you are simply box whipped and have no confidence in yourself to find another broad.
If you answered no which is the right answer.....You should know that you are doomed and you need to quit letting her dominate your life. Because that is what she is trying to do.
And like Henry-lilly said.......You better be using cock wraps because emotional wacky women love to get prego to try and "keep her man she is losing"
Mentally unstable girl always think that getting married or having a kid will solve the problems they think they have in their over emotional little lives. But do not be one of the guys who falls for the trap.
And for you married guys who love your wife and things are swell. Feel free to tell me I do not know garbage and I am wrong and your wife is the best   and I will just laugh in your face  |
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#10 Posted: 1/10/2012 12:31:43 PM 
Those dumb broads went 0 and 3 on actually having a bun in the oven and their plans to keep me in their life fell through. Such a weak desperate attempt and I do not put garbage past a crazy girl 
You need to get rid of Ms. Jekyll an Hyde because you are in a for a life of hating yourself daily for allowing yourself to put up with a crazy girl.
Or you can just stay with her like many of the guys here have with their wives and they will never admit to anyone what they really think and how unhappy they are for being trapped. You know because that same guy is programmed to act a certain way in public to appear that everything is peachy and fine and dandy 
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#11 Posted: 1/10/2012 12:37:19 PM
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#12 Posted: 1/10/2012 12:43:28 PM QUOTE Originally Posted by minion0812:
I've been very fortunate salty and been with an amazing girl for many years now. We still haven't had a big fight. No drama, no attitude, no problems. However, I feel quite lucky to get that because I agree with what you are saying in your posts and went about my relations with girls that way until I found Mrs. Minion.
I know it can happen but the reality of what you have in Mrs. Minion is like winning the lotto. Somebody wins but the odds are not in a guys favor.
Most guys cave in and do not know how to wait on the right one so good for you man
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#13 Posted: 1/10/2012 1:21:58 PM
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#14 Posted: 1/10/2012 1:45:01 PM
you're dealing with 2 separate problems. They both relate to your happiness, but try not to confuse them.
As far as the girl goes, don't stay with her if you're not feeling the love. Years ago I moved in with a chick that I knew I didn't love, but she was cute and the situation was convenient. It was a big mistake and I paid for it. My advice, dump the chick.
Second, you should feel very fortunate that you have a good job that pays well. There are a lot of American's that would kill to be in your shoes. Don't expect to see a lot of opportunity in the job market....it's bleak at best right now. You're likely not going to find anything better for quite sometime (most people are taking pay cuts just to get back into the workforce) - but it doesn't hurt to look. Just keep your expectations in check.
Overall, if these are your 2 biggest problems - your life is in good shape. Try to keep that in mind
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#15 Posted: 1/10/2012 2:53:55 PM
The world is full of people from busted relationships where they knew going in it probably wasn't going to work.
As for work, it sounds like it is time to sit down and figure out what you really want to do. But the best time to find a job is when you have one. I'd love to do something I was more passionate about, but I also thank my lucky stars I have money in the bank and don't have to worry about whether I can make the mortgage payment. I know plenty of people who live month to month and it's a constant source of stress. Don't forget to remind yourself that at least you don't have to worry about that.
It's easy to concentrate on all the things we don't have.
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#16 Posted: 1/10/2012 3:27:27 PM QUOTE Originally Posted by SALTY:
I know it can happen but the reality of what you have in Mrs. Minion is like winning the lotto. Somebody wins but the odds are not in a guys favor.
Most guys cave in and do not know how to wait on the right one so good for you man
Your friggin right they do! The worst is when guys cut all friends to be with the girl 24/7. Pathetic. I cut friends off after that crap. bets is when they come rolling back after the girl dumps them and telling them to darn off. Only had two of these losers but they were close for a while.
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