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Posted: 9/10/2012 10:50:53 PM
My 9 year old West Highland Terrier (Angel) is in her second bout with cancer. 1st time she beat it (Dec 09) surgery to remove a spindle-cell tumor. Came out of it 100%.

Beginning of August I heard her wheezing. Took her to vet immediately. Lymphoma, incurable. 1-2 months. We're there now.

Here's the question:

When I put her to sleep do I stay in the room with her and have that as my last memory, which I'm leaning toward heavily. I don't think I can live with just watching her led away. Opinions would be very appreciated, especially experienced ones.

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Posted: 9/10/2012 10:54:56 PM
QUOTE Originally Posted by Killer_B:

My 9 year old West Highland Terrier (Angel) is in her second bout with cancer. 1st time she beat it (Dec 09) surgery to remove a spindle-cell tumor. Came out of it 100%.

Beginning of August I heard her wheezing. Took her to vet immediately. Lymphoma, incurable. 1-2 months. We're there now.

Here's the question:

When I put her to sleep do I stay in the room with her and have that as my last memory, which I'm leaning toward heavily. I don't think I can live with just watching her led away. Opinions would be very appreciated, especially experienced ones.

Thanks

Be strong , be her leader. it will be so much easier for her having you there. 

Ive done this a few times. you cant worry about how it will affect you, at this moment it's all about her. Wouldnt you like to be surrounded by loved ones on your death bed ??? Think about it.......

Sorry to hear about your loss, hang on there and good luck.

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Posted: 9/10/2012 10:58:32 PM

She would do it for you.....

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Posted: 9/10/2012 11:00:09 PM
I paid a vet to come to my house to put Lilly down.  She was such a great dog and I wanted her last moments to be at her home with her family.  It seemed like the best choice for her and for us, as she was happy laying beside me instead of scared at a vet's office.  It was a heartbreaking experience none the less and there's no easy way out.  I feel for you, bro.
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Posted: 9/10/2012 11:01:44 PM

I agree, if you can do it, be there for her.  Being there could help keep her at ease in her final moments, which based on how heavy this is weighing on you, I'm sure is important to you.

Very tough thing to go through, I wish you the best

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Posted: 9/10/2012 11:12:31 PM
I agree with Wake. Been there and done that.Would do it again in a heartbeat.
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Posted: 9/10/2012 11:17:03 PM


My first Rottweiler had a heart attack and died in my arms.  That's the only way to go.  You will cry like a baby.  And that's OK.  Stay with her, hug her, and let her go while in your arms.


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Posted: 9/10/2012 11:19:14 PM

It will be very peaceful....The Dr. will give her a shot that will put her into a deep sleep, then another to make her heart stop. It will be very peaceful,it's the right thing to do. You have been a GREAT SOLDIER , now let her go in peace and you will se her on the otherside.Your pain will last for a long while,as it should when you lose a part of your family.Time heals all wounds...

Peace be with you and Angel

 

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Posted: 9/10/2012 11:50:22 PM
Thanks to my Covers brothers for the kind words, its very appreciated.

My theory on dogs is that if you had them for 1,000 years they'd never betray you if you give them the love they deserve and that's how they touch a part of you that no human can get to. It's an incredible bond that we all cherish. The world is a better place with her in it. Everyone that knows her from the maid to my friends and family are amazed by her.  

She's been the perfect little girl and really lived up to her name.

Thanks again, I know this is going to be a really bad week but when you go into this relationship you have to accept their life is just too short and we must do the humane thing when the time comes. 

Although she's still happy, her breathing is getting labored and at night it seems to be the worst. Another difficult thing is the right time to do this. Certainly you don't want to do it to early, but then I can't make her suffer either and this horrible disease isn't going to get better. 




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Posted: 9/11/2012 12:52:20 AM
Dude.....sorry to hear about your situation.

I would have to say I would want to be there holding her as the last minutes. You do not want to see her led away.



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Posted: 9/11/2012 12:52:38 AM
It'll be very quick & very sad but definitely give yourself a pat on the back for doing the right thing at the right time. There's no reason to watch the dog suffer & you're absolutely doing the  humane thing.
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Posted: 9/11/2012 1:42:54 AM
You have to be there.  And if you can, have the vet come to the house. 


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Posted: 9/11/2012 2:44:39 AM

4x.

Best friends I ever had.  Hold them, let the Dr do his/her job and quite them down to sleep.

"Thank you for your hard work and for caring Doctor."

Walk out and have your moment.

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Posted: 9/11/2012 3:07:55 AM
I just went thru this in February with my pet.Man it was so hard and painful and still hurts but I had to do what was best for my pet.I feel so sorry for you.I personally don't think there is a definite answer to be there or leave as its up to the person.
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Posted: 9/11/2012 3:41:54 AM
you already know the right answer... but it is the harder path in the moment... but I think if you are not there you will regret it later...

so it is the best thing to do for the animal and for yourself.

death is a part of life.  you did everything right as an owner to love, care and take of your animal, even when she was there last time...  this is just a part of being there for her just as you were in every other step of her life

takes courage... took courage to even talk about it... I hope that this thread was helpful to you and gave you support take the harder road... 
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Posted: 9/11/2012 5:34:54 AM
Amazing heartfelt responses. This is such a valuable tool to help each of us with things that come up in our lives that reaching out can offer great assistance and comfort. Every post here was very helpful to me!

I'm staying with her. I'm fortunate to not have a lot of regrets in my life largely due to trying to think through difficult decisions and finding the side that I can live with. She's always deserved my best and she'll get it. I'll be with her comforting her to the end.







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Posted: 9/11/2012 6:07:02 AM
When skipbone goes, I will be with. I know that now.  Killer b and angel.
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Posted: 9/11/2012 7:45:21 AM
vets are too quick to put dogs down...get essaic tea from the vitamin shoppe or mrs. greens and start giving it to her right away...look into other possible cures before taking her...
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Posted: 9/11/2012 7:46:56 AM

and that particular form is not incurable...

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Posted: 9/11/2012 7:51:36 AM
http://www.k9criticalcare.com/canine-lymphoma/
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Posted: 9/11/2012 9:44:27 AM

very sorry to hear Killer   

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Posted: 9/11/2012 10:24:49 AM
uuoe[Quote: Originally Posted by Killer_B] My 9 year old West Highland Terrier (Angel) is in her second bout with cancer. 1st time she beat it (Dec 09) surgery to remove a spindle-cell tumor. Came out of it 100%.

Beginning of August I heard her wheezing. Took her to vet immediately. Lymphoma, incurable. 1-2 months. We're there now.
Here's the question:
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I started rescuing boxers several years ago....Boxers are prone genetically to various disorders...at the top of the list cancerous tumors. In the past 12 years I have had to put down 7 of my best friends in the world and I was faced with your dilemma as well. I am so glad I chose to sit on the floor and hold my friends in my arms as the procedure took place. They deserve to have you there with them in their final moments. It's the last gift you will ever have a chance  give to them. And that memory....along with its tears....will linger in your heart as a cherished memory.
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Posted: 9/11/2012 10:29:02 AM
sorry I missed your post of the final moments already taking place. When I saw your first post I immediately responded.

I'm glad you did what you did......and I see you are too. Maybe some more unsolicited advice?

Sounds like you have a lot of love to give. Don't let your grief keep you from finding another friend very soon. Sometimes we feel a guilt thinking about getting another so soon....But your friend would want you to....and you will be better for it....and so will your new friend.....maybe find a rescue.

Google "A Dog Loaned".....a poem to give you some comfort.
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