Whats an acceptable age difference?

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Posted: 3/26/2012 12:58:46 AM
Well its official I start at a new location Tuesday .  Things will be easier now and we can move forward with our plans to move in together.  After all the tough talk and threats her parents never came to my office or anything.  Her mom makes a lot of threats to me, through her daughter, and calls me names like child molester and says I need help, but she is all talk and all that intimidatioin garbage doesn't work on me and doesn't on her daughter anymore, since she met me.  Lets just say this woman will never win mother of the year and I am not looking forward to having them as in-laws lol.
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Posted: 4/9/2012 12:47:53 AM
So I got a funny side story.  Me and my girl haven't seen each other as much recently cuz I'm at that new location, and we haven't moved in together, so we squeeze in time and dates when we can.  Being that we both have busy work schedules its tough sometimes.  She messaged me the other day and asked me to swing by her work, on my way home, so we could see e/o for a little bit so I did.  When I got there she jumped in my car and started grabbing my person and kissing me, and said lets go somewhere, cuz she only had like 30 min.  So we went to this park about a quarter mile away from our office and started friggin in my car.  It was like 830-9 so it was dark, but I guess someone called the police cuz sure enough a cop pulled up behind us while we were in the act.  He mustve known what we were doing cuz he gave us a minute then came up to the car, he ran my license and asked what we were doing, and I said it was my gf and so forth.  So he ended up checking her license and asking how old she was cuz I guess he thought she was a minor, lol cuz she does look kinda young and it probably looked shady, us having sex in my car cuz I'm older .  When it was all said and done tho he just came back to the car with a smile and was like c'mon guys the park closes after dark.
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Posted: 4/9/2012 4:21:40 AM
QUOTE

Originally Posted by PokinSmot:

you should marry her.....that's the only right thing to do.





Danm straight

Take the cherry, marry the berry

Thats what I did and 7 years later, still in bliss.

Perfect wife, produced what I consider to be a perfet little girl.

 

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Posted: 4/9/2012 12:34:46 PM
Lion good to hear from you
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Posted: 4/14/2012 12:40:58 AM
You to Packers its always refreshing to hear from some real people in here, hope all is well buddy
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Posted: 4/14/2012 1:38:44 AM
QUOTE Originally Posted by ironlionzion722:

So I got a funny side story.  Me and my girl haven't seen each other as much recently cuz I'm at that new location, and we haven't moved in together, so we squeeze in time and dates when we can.  Being that we both have busy work schedules its tough sometimes.  She messaged me the other day and asked me to swing by her work, on my way home, so we could see e/o for a little bit so I did.  When I got there she jumped in my car and started grabbing my person and kissing me, and said lets go somewhere, cuz she only had like 30 min.  So we went to this park about a quarter mile away from our office and started friggin in my car.  It was like 830-9 so it was dark, but I guess someone called the police cuz sure enough a cop pulled up behind us while we were in the act.  He mustve known what we were doing cuz he gave us a minute then came up to the car, he ran my license and asked what we were doing, and I said it was my gf and so forth.  So he ended up checking her license and asking how old she was cuz I guess he thought she was a minor, lol cuz she does look kinda young and it probably looked shady, us having sex in my car cuz I'm older .  When it was all said and done tho he just came back to the car with a smile and was like c'mon guys the park closes after dark.

I can relate to this story...on multiple occasions 
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Posted: 4/14/2012 2:50:24 AM
QUOTE Originally Posted by Lippsman:

You nailed a 19 year old and you are her boss.

Oh nothing bad will become of this.  

Her lawsuit against your company when you break up------>

Your job when this happens------------------------------------->

 As many other people here have stated, the age difference is not that big of a deal.  She is legal, so who really cares?

But risking your job because you gave in and fugoongaed her shigoonga can only end poorly for you. 

As complex as some situations seem, they are actual very simple decisions if one does a cost/benefit analysis beforehand.  And losing your job is a very real possibility if her parents have anything to do with it. 

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Posted: 4/14/2012 2:52:23 AM
QUOTE Originally Posted by Ktrain:


I disagree with this being made up. It seems plausible to me.

I also agree with this being the place to seek advice as well. He is receiving many different opinions from different people who can offer different perspectives on the subject. The unbiased nature of these responses, since we don't know him personally, is exactly what he should be seeking. Not any friends or family member who may just give him the answers or perspective he is seeking. 

I honestly think Covers is a great place to seek advice in situations like this. Maybe someone has been though something similar to a personal situation and can offer an outside perspective that a poster had never thought of. 

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Posted: 4/14/2012 8:32:39 AM
Age difference is no problem unless you ride a Harley in Arkansas, and don't know how to ride it..............
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Posted: 7/1/2012 1:23:45 AM
So I'm thinking about ending it with this girl.  She's a great girl but our age difference is really starting to show in different ways.  We just arent as compatable as I thought.  Only thing is she's a great girl and I took her virginity so I know its gonna break her heart if I end things so I'm kinda torn.  I wanna think about my own personal happiness, but I need to let her down gently, if I decide to, cuz shes done nothing wrong, and she really has the best personality, and is such a sweetheart, and I feel like I will end up ruining all that in her and she'll become just another jaded bitchy girl who feels screwed over by a man.
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Posted: 7/1/2012 3:12:32 PM
you know lion i've been thinking about you lately man hope everything is well there's not much anyone can say to help ya but if you love her hold on to her
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Posted: 7/1/2012 5:24:59 PM
QUOTE Originally Posted by ironlionzion722:

So I'm thinking about ending it with this girl.  She's a great girl but our age difference is really starting to show in different ways.  We just arent as compatable as I thought.  Only thing is she's a great girl and I took her virginity so I know its gonna break her heart if I end things so I'm kinda torn.  I wanna think about my own personal happiness, but I need to let her down gently, if I decide to, cuz shes done nothing wrong, and she really has the best personality, and is such a sweetheart, and I feel like I will end up ruining all that in her and she'll become just another jaded bitchy girl who feels screwed over by a man.

No garbage. You remember the world before the internet  You often went to video rental stores. You played Nintendo and possibly Atari. You had Nevermind and Ten on cassette. You owned a BEEPER for people sake. 

The gap between 19 and 29 is staggering. You're a man, she is a child. You let your person do your thinking. You might want to grow a pair and date a woman in the future. You know, someone you won't hold significant advantages over in every aspect of the relationship. It's almost impossible for you to believe that this was going to be anything other than box. If you did, you're simply not that smart.
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Posted: 7/1/2012 5:40:49 PM
"you owned a beeper for people sake"




(so did i)

time flies





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Posted: 7/8/2012 8:39:57 PM

Walktheline I think you're being a little melodramatic.  She's almost 20 shes not a child but I do agree I underestimated the age gap.  Also obv sex appeal came into play, who wouldn't wanna date a 19 yr old virgin with a slamming body.  I'm only 29 its not like I'm middleaged looking for a trophy wife lol

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Posted: 7/8/2012 8:58:25 PM
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Posted: 7/9/2012 4:44:31 PM
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Posted: 7/9/2012 5:13:13 PM
Women live longer than men. Women in the United States live an average of 5.2 years longer than men. The age difference in your case is actually negligible. A relationship is a matter of give and take. You can make this work if you want to.
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Posted: 7/12/2012 3:27:13 AM
Any updates dude?
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Posted: 7/24/2012 10:20:03 PM
We actually ended it last night.  It was amicable.  All the stuff with her family finally just wore me down and I came to the conclusion I don't wanna fight an endless battle with her family, that hates me for no reason, other then being older then her.  She was upset but we agreed to be friends and we'll see where it goes.  Honestly I feel like a new man I forgot how much I like not having to deal with the drama of a gf, even a good one.  On a brighter note I met this Puerto Rican broad at my new location about a month ago and she's def feeling me big time and I changed my status to reflect being single on facebook last night and woke up to texts from her saying "omg what happened is there anything I can do"  which I take to mean "lets darn" so a new chapter begins the teenage love is behind me and the crazy puerto rican is in my sites.
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Posted: 7/24/2012 10:26:15 PM
I will say tho it wasnt love it was just that thrill of something new.  Its like a drug, you know that feeling when you first get with someone you really like and you see them through rose colored glasses and despite all the alarms going off in your head you think nothing will ever go wrong this girl is amazing.  Then eventually you lose that feeling, sometimes gradually sometimes overnight.  I think if there is love its when you find someone you never lose that feeling with.  No hard feelings tho I like doing my own thing and there are plenty of girls out there to occupy my time.
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Posted: 7/24/2012 11:10:56 PM
No matter who you are with, that feeling fades later in the relationship and becomes a new type of love. I know what you are talking about, that new lustful feeling. That never lasts bro. Once you settle down with a woman the lust runs out and a different type of bond and love is formed.

Lust is great while it lasts though.

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Posted: 7/24/2012 11:28:13 PM

aint that the truth brother

 

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